Voice of the Spirit

With the hustle, bustle, stress and pressures of the holidays almost behind us, we’re finally now coming into the New Year.  And yes, wouldn’t it be nice for all of us to come up with a great New Year’s Resolution – and better yet, carry it out? 

However, even with good intentions, here are some of the biggest mistakes we make with our New Year’s Resolutions:

1-We state a resolution merely as a lark.  At a party, or as a fun and festive declaration, we make a resolution that is forgotten about or dismissed rather quickly.

2-We get so caught up in the stresses and pressures of the holidays that we forget to plan out a resolution for the coming year, so it gets lost in the shuffle.

3-We try to literally fix everything in our lives all at once:  love life, money, career, health, etc.  By taking on too much, we get overwhelmed, and nothing gets accomplished.

This New Year, ask yourself, “What is the one area of my life that would make the biggest and most positive change for the better?”  Remember, we’re speaking of only one area, and nothing more!  As we tend to get so bogged down in the confusion of all we’re dealing with, we don’t stop and realize just how one thing can truly make such a difference in our lives.

Put some thought into determining that one area of your life that if changed for the better, would have the most positive and profound impact on 2009 by doing the following:

1-Probe into what area of your life that actually is.  Give it serious thought and consideration.  Don’t just go with the first thing that comes to your mind.  Make a list of five to ten possible areas of concern.  Then, narrow it down to two to three, and see which area remains the one that continues to stand out as the most beneficial to change.

2-Ask yourself what the problem is.  How can you fix something if you don’t know what it is that needs to be fixed?  When we’re in the dark regarding a problem area of our lives, we can’t be effective in knowing what to do, and how to make a plan of action.  If you’re a woman who has not been successful in love, you need to ask the following:  “What kind of men am I attracted to?  Are they good or bad for me?  Why am I not interested in those who want a real relationship with me?  Why am I attracting nobody?”

3-Determine how to fix it.  In doing so, you need to look beneath the surface.  You must get to the bottom of the issue, and not just try to alleviate the symptoms.  Let’s say, if your health isn’t doing well, figure out why this has occurred. What if you kept taking Vicodin for severe headaches?  Sure, it relieved the pain, but never allowed you to get the core of what was causing the headaches, which could be quite serious.

Remember; where there is an effect (the problem) there is always a cause (what actually created the problem).  We must look at the origin and core of the issue, as that is the only way to really create meaningful and lasting change.

There are always two dynamics of a problem that need to be looked at to come up with a successful plan:

1-The external issues.  If it’s money, and you’re late on your credit card bills, you would be receiving past due notices in the mail.  This is just one instance of how the externals are pretty easy to determine, as they’re right there for the naked eye to see.  By looking at the late statements, it’s clear that you have to pay the minimum amount indicated, or call the credit card company to make some type of payment arrangements. 

Regarding the external issues of romantic relationships, here are some questions to help bring clarity:  “Where do I go to meet people who are like minded?  How do I put myself out there in a positive and productive way?”

2-The internal issues.  Determining the internal issues is much more problematic, complicated, and difficult to come to terms with.  It is presumable that we have helped to create our own problems, and that who we are and where we’re at internally is a huge part of that process.  Usually, the external problem merely mirrors what is going on within us.  We project outward where we’re at within, and that helps to manifest what we perceive as reality; thus, our external issues.

We need to ask ourselves, “Why am I doing the things I’m doing?  What is motivating me?  What’s the payoff and reward for my behavior?”  By understanding what “makes us tick,” we can begin to get a grasp of how to heal the internal issues behind our problems.

Make sure to not get sidetracked by defense mechanisms, or sub problems, and don’t let your energies get scattered in the process:

1-Our defense mechanisms will always try and protect us from what we fear as a form of survival.  If your fear is that you believe that loving someone would trap and imprison you, you’ll do everything you can to avoid intimacy and a potentially successful relationship.  If you’re trying to manifest love in 2009 and have this problem, it would be important to work on this one area regarding your love life.  By staying on point, and not getting thrown off track by your defense mechanisms, you can change your romantic forecast for the better this year.

In this instance, getting sidetracked would involve dating people who are unattainable, and/or married, and not open to a real relationship.  Allowing yourself to get involved with someone who reinforces your already existing fears only strengthens those fears and defense mechanisms.  This takes you further away from your goals.

2-Sub problems can be a distraction.  If you’re trying to lose weight, a sub problem would be to worry if you’re ever going to be able to fit into a certain outfit that you just saw in a store, and getting preoccupied over it.  Remember, that particular outfit is not relevant at this time.  Work on losing the inches and pounds, knowing that the goal is to be healthy and at your proper weight.  By manifesting that, everything else regarding fashion and appearance will fall into place.

3-Getting scattered is easy to do.  If you’re working on painting and redecorating a room in your house as your New Year’s resolution, getting distracted by things that come up, or being wrapped up into other people’s issues is a perfect way of avoiding completing your tasks.  “I know I should be painting today, but my best friend was upset with her husband, so she needed to talk.  I know I didn’t get anything done today, but there’s always tomorrow,” Jenny says.

But in reality, Jenny didn’t work on the room tomorrow.  As she was emotionally and internally looking for a way to procrastinate, her friend’s issue with her husband provided the perfect escape – and scapegoat.  Therefore, Jenny didn’t finish the room, and it sat there for several months until she finally got back into the swing of getting it painted and redecorated.  It actually took Jenny’s husband pushing and prodding her to get the room completed.

Since a part of us will resist wanting to stay with things, as it isn’t accomplished overnight, it’s easy to get scattered and lose our focus.  This is where we need to make the commitment that our priority is to stay with the plan, and not deviate from it.  Remember; don’t get bogged down by other people’s stuff, or situations that allow you to escape what you’ve planned to do.  Running away is always so easy to do. 

Engage a support system through family, friends, online forums and supportive articles on the Internet.  In addition, try to be your own support system:

1-Reward yourself for your achievements regarding your New Year’s resolution!  Treat yourself to a dinner, a new outfit, or a fun gift to signify various levels of manifesting your goals.  Do something nice for you, as that creates a win-win situation, where you know that your achievements bring about a reward for you.

2-Review your progress periodically – let’s say, every 1-3 months.  As we’re changing the one most important area of our lives, it can sometimes seem like we’re in the middle of a never ending journey.  When it feels overwhelming, it’s easy to put it aside, or merely give up.  By checking your progress periodically, you’ll receive the motivation you need to keep on going.

3-Be patient.  Never forget that this is the most important problem in your life that you’re in the process of fixing.  Therefore, it won’t be accomplished quickly and easily in one fell swoop.  Fixing that one biggest problem takes effort, patience, consistency, and due diligence.  Stay with it!  Just take it one day at a time, and don’t discount how important the small, consistent day by day steps are. 

It is now time to make this New Year and the age old concept of “What’s your New Year’s resolution” work for us.  Here’s how:

Don’t fall for the old traps.  But rather, stay focused on that one most important area of your life that needs to be changed, as doing just that literally transforms every single aspect of your journey.  Never think that since it’s only one area of your life, that it only impacts that single area – as it is literally changing everything in a most wonderful way!  It is a domino effect, as what you do with your money, health, love life, or in any area, impacts on all parts of your journey irrevocably. 

Don’t forget…:

If you fix your money situation, your improved self worth and sense of prosperity will radiate from within you throughout the universe.  This brings back unlimited blessings, including everyone treating you better because you feel better about you!  It also impacts positively in all levels of your life – as prosperity creates a tremendously good all around energy. 

Fixing your career allows you to work in a way that facilitates your divine calling and your unique genius.  By utilizing your irreplaceable one of a kind gifts and talents, you vibrate to an energy of success, fulfillment, and your true calling.  The world will then acknowledge you, and respect you.  Through fulfilling this part of your destiny, you help others, and bring back all the good that is afforded you in multiple ways — and this all happens from merely fixing just one area of your life!

Let’s set it into motion, right here, right now, and achieve just one thing — that most important thing for 2009.  Discover what it is, tackle it with joyful glee, and don’t give up.  You must stay with it till it’s fixed!  And this very year (not at some indefinite point way off in the future), you will bring about the life altering change for the better that your mind, heart and spirit have been longing for.

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