Voice of the Spirit

When someone we love transitions into spirit, it can leave us with a gaping hole in our hearts and in our lives.  It’s hard to grasp such an overwhelming and painful loss, unless and until we’ve lived through it.  We expect the phone to ring with them being on the other end — or to come home and there they are, just like it used to be.  But sooner or later, the reality kicks in — they really are gone…and gone for good. 

We will no longer see them in the flesh with our own two eyes, say hello to them, have a conversation, go to dinner, or see them on the holidays anymore.  The emptiness can seem as big as the size of eternity itself, with only our own alienating emotions, many of which are devastating, remaining with us.  We miss our loved ones, and cry, as if a tape loop of pain and misery just repeats itself over and over again… What can we do to find a sense of internal peace with our life altering loss?

The first question I would pose is, “Are they really and truly gone?  Is their “death” like the finale of a movie; the screen says “the end,” and then just goes black…?  Is the story over with, like the last page of a book you’ve just finished…?”  People use the word “death” in such a matter of fact way when referring to anyone leaving this earth. Also, death is the ultimate finality.

 But from a spiritual perspective, a different word may say it best when our loved ones leave this earth; one that says it much more clearly — that word is “transition,” as when our loved ones have transitioned from their physical existence to the other side, where consciousness continues in a different way.  Simply stated, they have moved on, and continue their existence in a new reality.

Think of your loved ones who have transitioned to the other side continuing their journey like the universe we see around us:  grass grows, seasons change, flowers bloom and trees keep rising and tower above us.  They don’t just return to dust – only the physical body does.  Their consciousness continues on in a spiritual reality.  And just like our relationships with people vary in the physical world, the roles our loved ones on the other side do or don’t play in our lives from the other side are multi faceted, with many variables. 

Misconceptions and Falsehoods

I would first like to address with you the many misconceptions, erroneous concepts and falsehoods which people believe regarding their loved ones on the other side and their roles in our earthly journey. These clarifications are designed to offer an accurate perspective regarding the process of our connection to our loved ones in spirit.

1) – Our loved ones are with us and/or supposed to be with us every single day 

This simply is not true.  If they were meant to be with us every day, they would still be here.  They have transitioned, because it was their time to move on, and our time to experience this separation as well.  It can be thought of like a child leaving home to go to college.  However, that does not mean that our ties with them are cut.

It would be like you living in New York, and someone you love moving to Chicago.  Would you be able to see them every single day?  Could they be there with you always? We would still talk with them on the phone, send emails, texts, etc. and indeed see them, but less frequently.  Just like that person who moved to Chicago, when someone we love transitions into spirit, they are not gone forever, just not as much in contact with us as they may have been before. 

Right after a person passes on, they may spend a lot of time around you immediately after they pass.  Sometimes they need to still feel what they’re familiar with, to ease into their new spiritual journey.  They may also want you to feel them to make the process of their transition easier for you.  As time goes on, they should begin moving away from you and focusing on the continuation of their own spiritual journey.  This would mean that contact with them should be lessened.

2) – Once on the Spiritual plane, our loved ones are enlightened

As some people here on the earth plane are spiritually unevolved, while others are highly evolved, it is the same thing on the other side.  Just because someone passes over, does not mean that they are, or become, enlightened.  That assumption cannot be made, in the same way one couldn’t presume that all human beings are either non enlightened or enlightened.  As people always have the option to grow, so do spirits.  While some spirits choose to grow and others don’t, this needs to be looked completely on a case-by-case basis.  Often, a spirit comes through to us in a very similar way as to who they were here on earth and maintain many of their former personality traits; meaning if Dad was humorous as Dad, he may still be that way on the other side.

 3) – Our loved ones become our master teachers and spiritual guides

Just because we may have a connection with our loved ones on the other side, does not mean that they are in a position to guide and teach us on a cosmic level.  First and foremost, our loved ones would have to have the universal knowledge, wisdom and awareness to be able to be our master teachers – the equivalent of a PHD here on earth.  Just because they love us has nothing to do with their spiritual awareness, and what they can offer to us as teachers on a spiritual level for our growth.

When they don’t or can’t come through to us

Sometimes, our loved ones don’t know how, or can’t, come through to us.  As we would like to believe that our loved ones on the other side do indeed come through, there are certain cases however, where they don’t.  Let me explain some of the reasons as to why.

1) – They may be sleeping or resting on the other side 

Especially if they had a long-standing illness on earth, a difficult human life, or a tough transition, they may be in an extended state of rest.  This would be for them to rejuvenate, let go of the attachment to what happened before, in preparation for their new spiritual journey.

2) – They don’t know that they can

Sometimes, a spirit doesn’t actually know that they can come through and connect with us.  It may seem odd, as if one could ask, “In spirit, shouldn’t they know they can reach us here?”  Not necessarily.  If they were closed minded on the physical plane, and didn’t believe spirits could communicate with us then, they may still feel the same.  Even though they are now in spirit, they still may not believe that spirits can communicate with human beings.  Therefore, they don’t know that they are able to reach us.

3) – Have not yet developed the skills

The ability to come through to us from the other side is not a natural given skill.  Unlike being born and naturally being able to breathe without being taught, spirits must learn, or already know how to connect with us.  Our transitioned loved ones must have either: A) – Developed this skill set in another lifetime, or between former lifetimes and still have access to these skills, or B) – Learn these skills now on the other side from one of their master spiritual teachers.  It is very similar to anything studied in school on earth: You have a teacher who instructs you, so you can learn.

 4) – It may not be for the highest good, yet

For reasons we may not understand, it may not be spiritually for the highest good for a loved one to come through from the other side.  It can be an issue of timing:  You may need to deal with certain lessons on your own for your own growth before they are supposed to come through.  There can also be lessons involved that are too complex for us as human beings to understand.  What if both of you are to learn to separate, so that the two of you can learn a lesson of independence from each other?  If the loved one in question was instructed by their master teachers to not come through and if they were listening to and following this guidance, they would heed these instructions, until the time may be right for them to reach out to you.

 5) – They may not be ready to

Sometimes, if the relationship between you and them had been strained, negative or painful on earth, a spirit on the other side may not be ready to come through to us.  Here, they may simply be being stuck and holding onto the negativity they carried over with them from when they were here.  They may have not spiritually grown in such a way to put whatever negative happened between the two of you behind them, at least yet. 

Often, a loved one who transitions may retain a great deal of the personality qualities they possessed when they were here as a human being.  Leaving this world in and of itself does not necessarily reflect on one’s growth and evolution. Again, a spirit, just like a person, may either choose to grow or not to.  In the same way we are not forced to grow here, neither are spirits on the other side.  Hopefully, in time, the negativity will be gotten past, so that a positive connection can be established.

Why and when they do come through to us

One of the first questions you may ask is, “If our loved ones there do come through, does that mean that they can see us?  Do they see what we go through in our everyday lives?  Do they watch over us?”

Our loved ones on the other side certainly don’t watch or view our every move.  Besides violating our privacy, it would not be appropriate for them or for us from a spiritual perspective to (in a sense) be eavesdropping on us all of the time.  They, like us, are also supposed to be learning, evolving and growing.  Remember, they are there and we are here.  Even though the earth plane and the other side are interconnected, it is not as if our loved ones there watch our lives like sitting in front of a TV and watching every scene of a movie. 

They may watch over us to a point; like a parent who’s child has moved out of the house, but is still in contact with them.  The parent still plays a potentially protective role, but more from a distance, then in the way a parent would watch over a toddler.  They may receive information from their master teachers as to the up and coming events in our lives. They will see certain things, perhaps the portions of our journeys that they are spiritually supposed to see, whereby they may be able to offer assistance to us if and when they come through. They themselves may sense if something is wrong, as the connection we have with them, although invisible to our physical eyes, does exist, and it can be thought of as a long distance telephone line between you and they.

With looking at how, when and why our transitioned loved ones come through, there are so many different instances and variables involved.  Here, let’s look at these many dynamics:

1) – To offer love and comfort

Our loved ones will frequently come through to us to offer love, comfort and support, especially in times of stress and difficulty.  Since we are familiar with their essence and energy, we are already connected to them; therefore, we can receive the energy flow they are sending to us.  As they want to help us, they will send this energy toward us and since thought is reality, these “thoughts” of love they project toward us do indeed reach us, and ultimately, help us.

2) – To offer messages

Messages from our loved ones on the other side can be helpful to us, especially because they can assist us in our earthly journeys.  These messages can be received by us directly: 

• We may be able to hear them in our awake state, as in hearing the actual words or portions of the words they are offering to us.  Even if we do not have the gift of mediumship, our special bond with a loved one on the other side may allow us to hear them, because of the depth of our connection and the openness we feel toward them.  
•  Coming to us in a dream with messages, where we may be more likely to hear them, as our normal daily defenses our relaxed and let down.  In most cases when we dream of someone who has passed on, it actually is contact from the one we’re dreaming of.
• We may receive these messages subconsciously and not hear them consciously, at least at first.  These messages will eventually filter up through the subconscious where we may hear them cognitively.  Or we will absorb and process these messages energetically and internally, similar to the way our bodies absorb the food we eat, and utilize it correctly.  Meaning, we may not consciously know what they have said to us, but on a deeper level from within, these messages help us in the way we direct our choices, acts, thoughts, words and deeds.
• Messages may also come through to another family member or loved one who is here on earth.  A spirit medium can also be utilized, as sometimes we or those close to us are not able to receive these messages as that takes a special gift and skill, and/or we are too close to the situation to be objective and simply hear what is being communicated from the other side.  Also, a medium may be able to pick up more specific information, especially if there is important and pertinent guidance that is time based to what is going on at this time in one’s life.

 These messages can vary as much as their communication would have when they were still here in the physical world including:

• Issue warnings of danger and help you to avoid pitfalls, bad decisions and potential problems.
• Advise you to extricate yourself from negative situations, such as a destructive romantic relationship.
• Let you know of conditions to come, whether they are negative or positive, so that you can make the most of what life holds in store for you.
• Offer encouragement for you to make good choices, manifest your dreams, prosperity, and support you in building a positive journey.
• Helping to provide vibrational protection for us to help shield us from danger and harm.
• Positive prayers from the other side that assist us in our journeys.  

 In addition, there can be other messages that are personal to you and them to confirm their presence, which establishes a connection and strengthens the bond that has been there.

Sometimes our loved ones come through with their own unique stamp of individuality, which will represent qualities that would identify them to you as you knew them to be.  It they were judgmental here, they may be there as well.  If they were pushy when human, they may still be just as pushy over there, and if they were gentle when they were in the physical plane, they may come through with a gentle approach in their communication with you.

3) – To make amends

Sometimes there had been prior difficultly in the physical world between our loved ones (now on the other side), and us.  When those loved ones have grown to realize that it is time to heal whatever issues and rifts had existed between them and us, they will come through with a healing message.  They are not being stubborn about it anymore, or defensive, as they are ready to bury the hatchet, so to speak.  This can involve an apology from them to us, or a sense of leaving the past behind.  This type of healing is very positive, as it helps all concerned advance and move forward from a spiritual perspective.

4) – To be a “spokesperson”

If our higher teachers wish to reach us, they will sometimes have the messages relayed through one of our loved ones in spirit.  Since we are familiar and comfortable with the energy of these loved ones, we are more likely to be able to sense, feel, and hear them.  Also, we would trust them, so when their energy came through to us, we would be less likely to close off, shut down, or dismiss what was being sent to us from spirit.  In a sense, our transitioned loved ones serve as being a “spokesperson” for the universal teachers who have the wisdom to guide us, because they lack the personal connection we have felt with those we have loved.

 Spiritual Timing

The master teachers know when it is spiritually the right time for our loved ones to come through.  Of course, these teachers know what is for the highest good of all concerned; therefore, they would guide our loved ones there to reach us here when they are supposed to.  Since there may be lessons involved that we, as people don’t understand, the timing may be different than what we as human beings want. 

There are many factors that need to be taken into consideration regarding the timing of a message:  When are we ready to receive it – how does it tie into the lessons needing to being learned — and when will it be most helpful – and when is it spiritually the correct time?  In the same way you wouldn’t drive a car at age 6 and you would need to wait till you were older and more mature, the same thing applies with when we should receive certain information from the spirit world.

When the time is right, spirit will reach us.  It is our job to wait patiently, and then receive what does come through, knowing that God’s perfect timing will apply to when and how our transitioned loved ones connect with us.

 What not to do

In the same way I just mentioned how we may need to be patient regarding the time frame of when a message comes through to us, there are also certain things we should not do regarding our loved ones who are now on the other side.  It is important to understand the spiritual parameters that guide our relationships to our transitioned loved ones.

1) – Do not expect them to tell you want you want to hear

Often, we are looking for confirmation, or to have our own feelings reinforced by our loved ones on the other side.  However, we can never expect this of them.  Certainly, they are not connecting with us merely to parrot our own existing viewpoint – rather, they are coming through to guide us, help us and potentially enlighten our reality.

2) – Do not expect them to solve your problems

Often, we give a false power to those we love who are now in spirit, as if they are God almighty.  Just like we are in a state of evolution, so are they.  And in the same way we are in the driver’s seat of our journey, our transitioned loved ones are only passengers.  We must always take responsibility for our problems and our actions and choices to hopefully resolve these issues.  Our loved ones from spirit can assist, offer guidance, insight, love, and support, but they cannot solve our problems for us.

3) – Do not expect them to be more spiritually evolved than they are

We often assume that since someone is on the other side, that automatically means that they are high in consciousness – and potentially spiritually enlightened.  This simply cannot be assumed.  In the same way there are people of every possible level of consciousness on earth, it is the same on the other side.  There are those who have not yet advanced, while others have taken the opportunity to grow spiritually.  Do not assume that they have grown, as it would need to be assessed on a case-by-case basis.

 4) – Do not assume what spirit will say to you

Do not pre-script in your mind what messages may come through for you from the other side.  Such assumptions can limit what you are open to receive, and willing to hear.  As spirit may often surprise us with insights that are not currently what we may relate to or understand, we must always approach any message from the other side with a completely open mind.

5) – Do not pull on them

This is perhaps the most important “do not” being addressed here.  If we pull on our transitioned loved ones, we hold them back.  By wanting them to be with us, near us and communicating with us all of the time or frequently, we get in the way of the divine plan.  If our loved ones are in spirit, they are not supposed to be with us in our daily lives.  By holding onto them and pulling on them, we actually prevent them from growing.  Because they love us, they may feel obligated to try and accommodate our wishes, therefore, not move forward with their own spiritual growth.  We should absolutely never pull on them, as they will be there for us if and when it is appropriate from a higher point of view – not just from the perspective of what we emotionally want.

Pets who have crossed over

For many of us, are pets are as close to us as our human loved ones.  When our pets transition to the other side, it can be as devastating as a loss of a person we care for.  Many of my clients have asked me, “Are my pets still connected to me once they’ve passed on?”  The answer is yes, they still remain connected to us.

Animals cross over, and do go into a special place on the other side of light, love and supreme joy.  They are present alongside other animals, and spiritual guides.  (This may involve them being with the same animal friends they knew here; if your family had two dogs who crossed over, they would still be together.)  Often, they run through the fields and do what you would think they would do. 

Regarding us who are still here, they do sometimes come around the house, or in the back yard where they use to play.  Often, my wife and I have seen our own transitioned dogs running through the yard, or being in the house, however, they are not always with us – just occasionally.  As the love they feel for us is like a cord that connects us to them spiritually and forever, they still come back and forth to us in the physical plane, as they feel the same love for us.

The love that is forever

In the same way that our pets love us forever, so do our loved ones (once in the human form), who are now on the other side in spirit. Even though they’re gone from physical sight and our day-to-day lives, they are not absent from our hearts. 

 In reality, the eternal, indestructible and endless cord of love connects us to our loved ones on the other side.  There are no barriers of time and space that can break that tie.  It is absolutely unable to be broken…

And while there are many specifics as to why, how, and when our loved ones from spirit do and don’t come through to us, the energy – the constant flow of unconditional love between us remains with us for all seasons and for all of eternity.  Think of it like an endless and eternal light that shines brightly through all of the passages of our lives – from darkness to confusion, to pain, happiness and elation!  We are comforted by the love that envelops and supports us from the other side, in the same way we felt cradled as infants in the protective arms of those who loved and nurtured us. 

And when they are supposed to help us, they will – when a message is supposed to reach us, it will be offered – as protection is necessary to shield us from danger and harm, it will be there – and most of all, we know that the love that has been built between us is not temporary; like our earthly existences that do come to an end, bur rather, as eternal as eternity is itself.

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Topic: Being open to spirit
Goal: To be open to what spirit has to offer to us here in our earthly lives.

I am open to all of the blessings spirit offers me from the other side!

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When someone hurts us and wrongs us, it triggers a series of internal emotions: starting with the initial shock, to confusion and disillusionment as to why it happened, eventually leading to the feeling of victimization.  Once we identify with being a victim, though, that progresses to even worse feelings such as long term resentment and rage, which can potentially settle into chronic bitterness.  Once we’ve become a bitter person, it is quite hard for us to be at peace, not only with what we’ve been through, but with our lives on any level.  The bitterness serves as a form of ever growing negative bacteria throughout our systems. 

It’s always hardest when we have been close to the person who has wronged us.  We all can pretty much conceive of strangers doing bad things to people; but it is difficult for us to accept that someone who is connected to us – a person we may have even loved, hurting us so badly.  Our personal connection to them presumably makes us feel as if they wouldn’t do something terrible to us.  So when it does, the pain is so much more egregious, because of the depth of our feelings we have for that individual.  We all like to believe that those we love will also care for us in return and when they seriously harm and even destroy our lives, it can be just devastating. 

Then when we look at this person, we notice that perhaps they seem to be doing ok, even though our lives are in shambles – in fact, they always appear to be moving along just fine with their own life – they are not hurting at all like we are!  And we ask ourselves, “How come nothing bad ever happens to them and why don’t they ever get back what they’ve done to others?”  Clarifying these issues from a spiritual perspective is the point of this writing.

As we look at the process of the actions which have been done toward us and how they affect us, we must also look at the same cause and effect relationship spiritually.  According to the law of karma, whatever is done by a person (to us), comes back to that individual.  As you may remember in a previous newsletter, the word karma comes from a Sanskrit root that means “to do.” This refers to the consequences of our actions from past lives and this lifetime, too.  Also, karma can mean “comeback.” All we have done before comes back to us, as in what we have done prior.  In the short of it, from a spiritual point of view, whatever someone has done to you, in time will come back to them.  Since karma is neutral and can either be “good” or “bad,” for the purpose of this writing, all of the karma referred to below will be negative or “bad” karma.

Something I hear frequently from clients is how they are disillusioned and frustrated with the concept of “karma,” as they have not yet seen any negative repercussions come back to the person who has harmed them.  It’s as if they believe that if they were victimized, let’s say in January 2008, that sometime shortly after, weeks or maybe months, that the person who harmed them would and should receive a pay back.  However, this hardly ever happens in such short time frames after the initial hurtful act was done.

This can be one of the most confusing aspects of the law of karma. Especially when someone is feeling hurt by another, it is hard to grasp that it just may take quite a long time for the repercussions to come back to the perpetrator.  Simply stated, there is no strict time frame as to when karma will comeback.  Meaning, we may not see the repercussions occur to the person who has hurt us in the time period that we are emotionally expecting at all.

The exact time when karma comes back to an individual is dependent on when God and the lords of karma (the spiritual forces who govern and oversee karma in the physical world), decide that the time period is correct.  It can be today, tomorrow, years, decades and even lifetimes before karma comes back to an individual. Yes, it can even take lifetimes for it to come back!

You might ask, “Why is the time so variable?”  In part, it depends on how spiritually evolved one is.  The less evolved they are, the more likely karma will come back to them slowly.  In a sense, they may not “know any better.”  However, for someone who does indeed know better and understands the consequences for his or her actions, it is more likely that karma will come back far more rapidly as they, on the other hand, are more spiritually evolved.

Often, God will give an individual many chances to learn their lesson before karma comes back, with the hope that they can spiritually grow and begin atoning for their negative past deeds.  It is sort of like someone being on probation for a crime they committed; with probation, it is hoped that this individual will come to terms with their bad acts and make a change for the better.

Another noteworthy thought is that some people have “instant karma” karma in this lifetime.  Everything seems to come back to them immediately.  That is not random or by accident.  It is part of their spiritual plan.  Whatever they do is supposed to come back immediately, as it forces them to deal with and take notice of the repercussions for their actions.  With instant karma, it becomes less likely to avoid acknowledging their karmic consequences – as those consequences are right in front of them.

In addition, karma needs to come back at the correct time. That time may need to be in line with when someone is supposed to (from a spiritual point of view) from their consequences.  Also, the physical settings and circumstances need to be able to facilitate when the karma occurs.  Since the physical world changes every day, there is the specific time when things need to occur.  It is the same as when there is a specific time for a plane to take off for a destination.

There may also be past life situations and circumstances that cannot be humanly perceived.  What occurred in prior lifetimes also has a huge impact on when karma may come back in this lifetime.  We may not see these time frames as human beings, as there is no way we can prove what happened in prior lifetimes between the individuals involved. For example, Susan may have left her husband Tom in another lifetime for his best friend, which devastated Tom.  In this lifetime, Susan and Tom agreed (before this incarnation) that in this lifetime, Tom would indeed leave his wife Susan.  If we didn’t know the back-story, it could seem wrong, however, there is always more than meets our physical eyes.

But, it always does come back, and that is not meant as a punitive statement.  It is just a natural law of the universe.  Just because we may not witness the comeback, doesn’t mean that it won’t happen.  It always does happen in due time. 

Besides the question of “when” karma comes back, there is also the question of “who” will indeed bring the repercussions to bear.  You might question, “If someone hurt me, wouldn’t I have to be the person who does the same thing to them in return?  After all, it was done to me.”   Not necessarily so.  Often, it is a person entirely different than the person who was originally hurt.  For example:  If a woman’s husband cheated on her and left her for another woman, the other woman may end up being the one who in turn, cheats on him.  Here, it wasn’t his ex wife who paid him back, but it was the other woman.

Often, the person originally wronged is not in a position in the physical world to be the one to facilitate the consequence.  Let’s say, a man robbed a woman in Seattle (who herself continued to reside in Seattle). The robber then moved to New York, so the victim of the robbery would not be anywhere near the robber to potentially pay him back.  If the lords of karma were to bring the karmic repercussion to bear on the robber while the victim was still living in Seattle, another person could be the vehicle for the karma to bear; someone who would be in the vicinity of the robber.

If the original “victim” transitioned into spirit before the time period of the karma to come back to the perpetrator, that “victim” wouldn’t be present in the human form to be a part of that karmic payback; so another person would need to be the catalyst for the karmic consequence.

Also, a person originally wronged may have grown in such a way that he or she wouldn’t be able to act in a punitive way toward the person who once hurt them.  If a man physically attacked another man and seriously injured him (and that man grew to forgive his attacker and had come to a place of peace), he may not be the person who brings the repercussions into being.  He was beyond that energy in consciousness – (one that would have felt compelled to attack back), therefore, through his spiritual growth, he had transcended the negative energy of what happened before.

Besides the “when” and the “who” of karma’s come back, there is also the question of “how.”  How does karma come back?  Let’s look at a situation:  Wouldn’t it make sense that if John ruined the career of Valerie on purpose, that at some point (and even perhaps by a different person other than Valerie), John would have his career ruined in exactly the same way he once did to Valerie? 

Again, not necessarily so.  John’s career actually ended up doing fine in this lifetime, even though he destroyed Valerie’s.  So you might ask, “Why wouldn’t John’s career end up getting ruined, as he did to Valerie’s?  Doesn’t what goes around, come around?”  Often, karma comes back to a person in an entirely different way or in a different area of their life than which the original karma was created.  Karma is not always a mirror of what originally occurred.

Regarding John, even though his career remained intact, his house burned down, plus he had two serious accidents that involved slipping and falling.  All of these problems would have not happened had he not ruined Valerie’s career, as the negative energy he created came back to him, albeit in a different way. 

Let’s say, a man named Joe cheated on several women and wreaked havoc in their lives.  None of these women ever cheated on Joe in return, and in addition, no other new women cheated on him in the future either as a form of payback.  It might seem like Joe “got away with it,” as if he had his fun, deceived multiple women, and just rode off into the sunset.  However, Joe developed serious and life debilitating health problems, ones that wouldn’t have manifested had he not hurt so many of these women and created so much negativity.  It all did come back to him, but in a completely different way than what Joe originally did.  On top of that, Joe may have to work all of this out with these women in subsequent lifetimes, as it was not circumstantially possible to do so in everyone’s current incarnation.

With Joe’s situation, along with all of the above-mentioned examples, karmic repercussions can be quite difficult for us to understand.  So as we look at the “when,” “who,” and “how” karma comes back, it is so much more intricate, multi faceted and complicated in its applications that we may have ever thought prior.

The same frustrations we have all felt regarding it seeming like nothing bad ever happens to those who have hurt us, doesn’t just apply to our daily lives, but also to our court system.  Our courts are supposed to provide justice and repercussions for those who have wronged us – in the same way we believe that karma will come back to those who have hurt us in day to day life.  However, that is not how it always appears to be.

Certainly all of us have seen or experienced court verdicts that were (from a human point of view) unjust.  Murderers walk away seemingly scott free and people get falsely convicted everyday.  You could say, “Where is the karmic justice in that?”  Again, never lose sight of the fact that: 

We don’t know the past life ramifications involved, which means that there may be more complicated lessons and past occurrences between the parties involved that we could ever perceive.

 Karma may not come back in the way, time or fashion we feel is humanly right, meaning that karmic justice may be served subsequent to an “unfair” court verdict: later in this lifetime or in future incarnations.

Only God knows for sure what the karma actually is, therefore, we can’t judge things merely based on current appearances and circumstances. 

Regarding the justice system, here is a question worth asking:  Does a guilty verdict and punishment (prison, execution) by the state constitute a karmic consequence?  It may be part of the karmic consequence, although there is still the issue of the “victim” and / or “victims” involved and what happened to their lives from the negative deeds both internally and externally.  In addition to negative actions, the emotions we feel as “victims” has a tremendous amount to do with how karma is created.  As emotions do create karma, the intensity of such feelings as: hurt, anger, rage, vindictiveness, self-pity and bitterness, function as handcuffs between the parties involved.  With these negative emotions engaged, not only is karma set into motion, but it binds everyone involved to have to come face to face with it all again.  You might say ask, “What for?  Hasn’t the “victim” suffered enough?”  It has to be dealt with again so that complete peace and resolution will ultimately be achieved.

It is most important to differentiate here between God’s eternal karmic justice and justice here on earth, which of course, appears flawed to us.  But in cosmic terms, is it really?   We are all so familiar with the Bible phrase: “An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth.”  With that old mainstay, we tend to think of karma as bringing about justice; justice in very literal terms – as if to say that if you punched me on Monday, therefore I will punch you soon afterwards. 

Even though it may take a lot of time, and not be perceived in ways that make sense to us, karmic justice is always ultimately and perfectly served from a spiritual perspective.  In reality, God is ultimately not unfair; even though we all have felt those utterly painful emotions that cause us to yell out, “Life just isn’t fair!”

With the nagging question of “How come nothing bad ever happens to them,” we become imprisoned by feelings of hurt, resentment and worst of all, bitterness.  However, we must understand that regarding karma, God and the lords of karma are in charge, not us – and they do know what to do.  We cannot hold onto the feeling that somehow we know and have the right to declare what is right, just, and ultimately, what is supposed to occur once we’ve been wronged.  In our emotional subjectivity, we lose any and all sight of looking at our experiences from a point of spiritual overview.  And it’s not to say that our feelings are wrong; however, emotions may not represent cosmic truth, but rather, simply what we feel as people. 

People want to feel avenged and revenged…. Sometimes, they feel revenge is absolutely necessary to even the score and move on.  However, these needs are not always based on a vindictive need to get even.  A person may simply feel that they really must be vindicated and have closure to put what happened behind them.  However, we must try to let go of these needs, so we can begin putting out lives back together, as there is no guarantee that we will feel avenged, revenged and vindicated regarding what has occurred.

We may have gone through these experiences to learn, and what we are supposed to learn from being wronged, may be different that what we want.  Wanting to get even with others based on being hurt is like drinking poison – and thinking that it will somehow poison the other person.  The more we desire to see it all come back to another, the more we suffer, through indulging in repeated doses of emotional negativity – equivalent to literally poisoning ourselves – a little at a time.

I remember a female client of mine who had dated a male co-worker who had a history of non-commitment to the women he dated.  However, she stubbornly held onto the idea that this “relationship” would evolve into something much more, even though I repeatedly told her that this man would never love or care for her.  So when things didn’t go the way she intended and it all fell apart, she tried to “get even,” by trying to get him to lose his job.  Here, she was trying to take the place of the lords of karma by bringing the karma to bear on this man in the way she felt was right and justified.

What happened however, is that through her negative act, it all came back to her – and everyone in the office turned against her.  Even though she may have been hurt, indulging in this negativity came back to harm her.  It would have served her better to work on releasing this man, and praying for forgiveness.

So instead of waiting and hoping for someone to “get theirs,” it is our job to begin forgiving.  We must work on forgiving those who have wronged, hurt us, or even destroyed our lives.  Without forgiveness, we will never be free, or happy at all.  Also, if we hold onto negative emotions, we are handcuffing ourselves to the person and what they have done to us – and putting ourselves in a prison.  If we are internally “locked up,” most assuredly, we will become imprisoned externally in our lives as well, whether through illness, poverty, accidents, or restrictions that bind us. 

I completely understand how you feel if you keep coming back to that nagging question, “How come nothing bad ever happens to them?”  Inside, you feel that they did these horrible things and simply got away with it.  Instead, we need to replace that question by affirming, “God blesses this situation and all is resolved for the highest peace and highest good.”  Also, one could day, “I wish this person well and affirm that all is peaceful between us.”  I know how hard it is to let go – but we must all try our best to do so. 

By releasing the burden of all that has happened to divine love, we give it all up to God Almighty, who DOES know what’s best for all parties concerned.  And if we can wish well upon all who have harmed us, we become free – free like a bird.  It is the heaviness of negative emotions that weigh us down, even to the point of crippling us:  emotionally, physically, financially and in all ways.  By blessing those who have hurt us, we will bring good back to us.  Why?  Because we tend to attract what we vibrate to.  And with perfect peace, we will see wondrous miracles come to us.

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For any reader, there comes a point, often many times throughout their career, where someone asks them a “test” question.  “When will my girlfriend and I are get back together,” a man asks?”  However, there has been no break up.  He and his girlfriend are going along in their relationship just fine.  So why was this “test” question asked, then?  Simply stated, it is designed to trip a reader up.  Some people think that if they throw a “test” question (the equivalent of a curve ball), and if the reader is “really psychic,” they should be able to immediately see this “curve ball” coming, and somehow look beyond that “test” question and tune in accurately.

For these types of people who are skeptical, cynical or downright disbelieving of the psychic process, they raise the bar so much higher than any reader could possibly reach.  In their minds, if a psychic reading is to be believed at all, it must be absolutely 100% accurate.  By holding a psychic to a standard that is humanly unable to be achieved, the value of what a reading can offer becomes discredited, and therefore, dismissed.

When it comes to a reading, for those who are closed minded, it’s as if there can be no margin of error if psychic ability is to be considered credible – but apparently, this only applies to psychics.  Science, medicine, mathematics and physics, all things that are considered reliable standards of absolute fact and truth, ALL have a margin of error.  Is every scientific conclusion always right, or every medical diagnosis correct?  Of course not.  What about mathematics and physics?  They are not 100% accurate either.  In the short of it, there is nothing that we do as human beings that is infallible, flawless and perfect.  So why doesn’t that understanding apply to psychics? 

Because these people are looking to discredit psychic readings, plan and simple — and that is easily achieved by raising the bar higher than any reader could reach.  It becomes a way of validating the pre-conceived prejudice held by many against psychics in general.  It reminds me of that old street phrase:  “If you’re looking for it, you’ll find it.”  Meaning, if you want to make a reader look foolish, inaccurate, non-credible and even ridiculous, it’s easy to do. 

“If you were really psychic, you would know my name?  If you were really psychic, you would know what I’m thinking right now.  If you were not a fraud, you should know what I ate for breakfast,” someone out to disprove psychics may say.  However, for anyone who understands the psychic process at all, these are not viable questions.  A consultation can be many things:  It can bring information through from spirit (which is designed to offer counsel, guidance, insights and predictions that assist in life’s journey).  Some readers are only psychic, and not mediums.  Other readings may offer only one of these things; others a combination. 

Readings do not involve guessing, parlor tricks, slight of hand, or mind reading.  (It would be like asking your doctor to guess at what a blood test is going to reveal.)  In these instances, one’s mind is already made up.  They just look to find ways to authenticate their pre existing judgment.

Often, test questions are used to throw a psychic off, which are simply designed to discredit the reader.  I remember a woman asking me, “When will I get married?”  As I started to tune into the energy, she interrupted and cheerfully proclaimed, “I’m already married.  I can see that you are not really psychic at all, because if you were, you would have known I was married. Now I know that this is all fake.” 

Another client once asked, “How many children do I have?”  She then stated that she doesn’t believe in readings, but if I were really psychic, I should be able to answer this question right on the spot — and if I could, just maybe she would consider having a reading. 

Keep in mind that a psychic can “miss” these questions and still be a good reader:  For example, a psychic might feel a strong relationship as a marriage, even if it is not a legal one.  There are times that a psychic can feel children connected to a person that are not theirs biologically.  The child picked up through a reading may be someone who they are like a parent to, or perhaps, a stepchild. 

With these types of questions, it is abundantly clear that it is only a test.  In this instance, I advised this client that test questions will not give her the reading she should want (but didn’t want), – an accurate one.  It only pollutes the spiritual aspect of the psychic process and ruins the possibility of helpful information to be channeled.

In any consultation, there should be the presumption by the reader that a client’s motives and intentions are sincere.  A psychic cannot do their job correctly by wondering if what the client presents are legitimate or trick questions, which are designed to lay a trap.  If a session becomes a game of hide and seek, the reading will not work. 

You might ask, “If someone is really psychic, does it matter what the client’s attitude is?  Isn’t information that comes through a reading just that – information?”  Clearly — it’s not that simple. Think of a reading as a partnership between:  The reader, the client, the spirit forces involved (guardian angels, master teachers, possibly loved ones from the other side), as well as information directly channeled from the Godhead.  If the client is closed, cynical, disbelieving, or trying to trip the reader up, part of this partnership fails or is at least, seriously compromised.   It is like having several links that make up a chain, with one of the links being broken, (which represents the client’s negative or closed attitude).  The entire chain becomes weakened.

Remember, the nature of a reading is not designed to survive tests.  The psychic process is quite delicate, and easily thrown out of balance.  As a reading involves transcending time and space and connecting with the spirit world, it is like holding a vase in your hands.  If you knock it against something, it gets chipped and damaged, and worse yet, if it is dropped, it becomes shattered.  It is the same situation with a reading.  Closing off, asking test questions and being cynical, all change the outcome of a reading.  Why?  Because a session is based on the flow of energy coming into and through the reading, and the client is definitely a large part of that energy.  When this energy changes for the negative because of the client, the reading itself becomes inaccurate and non-productive. 

Here is a question worth asking:  “Since God doesn’t play games and perform the equivalent of card tricks in a reading, why would anyone think that they could reduce a session to such nonsense and that God’s infinite intelligence would comply?  In short, we see that those who don’t want to approach a reading with an open mind will not benefit from all that could indeed come through to guide them.  They will try to prevent anything helpful from spirit reach them.  Yet there are those who do have readings on a regular basis and claim to believe in the psychic process, but they also don’t allow the psychic process to work either.  They play the same “If you were really psychic” game, but in a slightly different way.

Some clients try to limit a reading to only “yes” or “no” answers, only seen in black and white terms.  “When am I going to be rich?  When am I getting married?  What am I going to do this month?  When am I meeting the one?  Often, these as well as any other questions cannot be answered in didactic “yes” or “no” answers, without any grey tones discussed, which absolutely exist in life’s journey.  If life were only thumbs up or thumbs down responses, it would be pretty simple and basic, wouldn’t it?  Either you get what you want, or you don’t – period.

Of course, our experience is completely filled with grey tones, and if our lives are that way, why would anyone think that a reading could be any different?  If all aspects of our journey have choices, forks in the road, possibilities, crossroads, lessons and complexities, how would a reading then trump the laws of the universe?

It’s as if these clients have incredibly unrealistic expectations of a reading that are not humanly possible.  Here is an example:  I recently had a client who wanted to know when his money situation was going to improve.  As I was trying to explain to him that what I was picking up was that his negative self image and feeling unworthy of prosperity is what created (and was still perpetuating his poverty), he immediately interrupted with, “I just want to know when my money situation is going to get better.  Can’t you answer that question?  If you were really psychic, you should know that?  Is it tomorrow, next month or when?”

Here, what he refused to realize, is that his “money” question couldn’t be answered by a time-based prediction at all.  Meaning, it CANNOT be clarified by a date on the calendar.  Why?  Because it is lesson driven.  This means that the client has a spiritual lesson to learn regarding money – one that he had agreed to before he incarnated into this physical lifetime.  Now, the lesson has come to bear, and he needs to learn what he is supposed to, which in this instance, is to improve his self worth, self esteem and self image, which will allow him to manifest money.  However, if he doesn’t learn these things, the money remains unavailable to him.

It’s like wanting a diploma without passing your classes.  The diploma only comes after you complete your courses with passing grades. This analogy may sound silly, but it really is the same thing:  The lesson needs to be learned for the desired outcome of the client to come into being.

Sometimes these clients argue, interrupt, and keep trying to act as if life is a “pre written” script, always using the statement, “If you were really psychic, you should know the answer.”  If that were the case, all we would be in the physical world are actors saying our lines and acting out the scenes completely written for us by a higher power.  If that was all we were here for, what purpose could a reading possibly serve?  There would be no value in simply knowing everything that was going to happen to us, without any possibility of choice or changing our lives for the better.

At the root of the problem, is something much deeper, though.  The reason that only “yes” or “no” answers are sought and accepted is that those responses require absolutely no growth on the client’s part.  The real issue is not if someone is psychic enough – the fact is that these clients don’t want to look at themselves, and see how they have created or co created their reality and what they need to do to change it and move forward.  It’s the same thing as someone who is overweight not wanting to diet – or someone who is out of shape not wanting to sweat at the gym.  It’s as if someone was drowning, and they were being thrown a life raft to save their lives, but instead, they become defensive and find fault with the person trying to help them.

If a psychic can just say:  “It’s a yes or it’s a no,” there is no work involved for the client.  For the client to want, even insist on this type of reading, if indicates that the client is in denial, and is resisting taking responsibility for doing what they need to do to move their journey in the right direction.  And often, it’s the psychic who gets blamed, as if they are not really being “psychic,” if they offer anything other than bottom line “fill in the calendar” predictions.

This also becomes a way for the client to control the reading and limit what it can offer, all because they don’t want to realistically look at their own situation.  This way, a reading becomes something to play with and be amused by, as just another form of entertainment or a little “pick me up.”  A session is reduced to something like a magic fantasy pill, or a quick fix, as opposed to a consultation that can offer several levels of insight, guidance and helpful information.  If we look at the possibilities of what a reading can indeed offer, we see the limitless potential of what a consultation can provide.  Here are some of the infinite possibilities that can be gained from a reading when a client has an open mind:

•  Seeing the lessons that need to be learned to move forward in a positive way with their journey.
• All of the choices involved in any situation that indeed affect the outcome.
• What is best and not best to do.
• Seeing the repercussions for choices to redirect what is chosen for the better.
• Clarifying the spiritual lessons that are being learned, which helps to clear up confusion and offer direction.
• The potential of what can be manifested and how to achieve that.
• Time based predictions, when applicable.
• The past life lessons that were agreed to before incarnating that need to be learned.
• Understanding other people’s motives, who they are and how that relates to the client.
• The many possibilities that are in front of the client.
• How there is more that one road to travel down in any given situation.
• How the client has often created or co-created their reality.
• The power of thoughts, words, actions and choices.
• Redirecting thought processes for success.
• Spirit messages from our teachers, as well as loved ones from the other side.
• Any and all insights and messages that come through from spirit in a reading.

You might ask, “Is all of this really psychic?  Some of it sounds like self help and maybe even counseling.”  Yes, it is ALL psychic.  Why?  Because the way that this information is gained comes through the psychic process.  So any level of insights, predictions, guidance, transcendent information, spirit messages, counsel, and awareness of any kind that that comes through in a consultation, all falls under the umbrella of a psychic reading.  Here, we need to redirect our limited perception of a reading to being far beyond just the simple “yes” or “no,” “time and date” predictions that are far too limited to really help anyone on any real level.  Think of it this way:  Besides our ego, defense and denial mechanisms, what possible reason could a client have to not want to receive potentially helpful, even life-altering information?

Since a reading is offered to us to serve a higher purpose in our lives, it is not a game, but rather, a divine gift from the heavens.  Even if we achieve the ability to listen to what comes through, we must also remember that what we may request to come through in a reading may or may not.  God offers what God offers, and yes, God knows best. 

Often, the question asked is not the question answered or in the way the client would like it to be answered.  A client could ask, “If you were really psychic, why couldn’t you answer my question in the way I asked it?  Instead, something completely different came through.”  This is because spirit, our teachers, loved ones from the other said and God Almighty know what’s best – not necessarily what the client may want to hear, but what they NEED to hear.

Besides being flexible regarding the way a question may be answered, a large part of whether a reading is successful or not is the ability for the client to participate in the process.  For a session to be successful, the client must be involved in a positive way.  A reading is a partnership – it is teamwork.  What does that mean?  Actually, it varies from reading to reading.  Sometimes, there is dialogue between the client and reader.  Other times, a spirit message comes through that must NOT be interrupted by the client.  Other times, a client needs to talk about what they’re going through to get it out (which opens up the energy as they release what’s going on inside), while other times, spirit takes the lead and offers guidance.  If a reader needs clarification on something they’re feeling, the client needs to offer that in return.

In addition, the client must not go into a reading thinking they already know the answers.  Often, what one believes to be true, frequently with all of their heart, is not accurate or correct.  It may be just what is being emotionally experienced at the time.  In that subjective mode, it’s easy for a client’s defenses and ego to become engaged and say, “If you were really psychic, what you are saying would make sense, but it doesn’t,” because the reading doesn’t match or parrot the client’s pre-existing viewpoint.  If the reader is made to be wrong, the client can still feel justified in holding onto their current false view of the situation in question.  This way, the reading will be greatly hampered, limited and probably unsuccessful.  If we want a reading to be enlightening, we can never expect to get more out of a session than what we’re open to receive and what we’re willing to give.

There is that great phrase, “You get what you give.”  This is so true for a reading.  What a client gives to a session is most certainly what they will get back in return.  A client must give an open heart, open mind, a willingness to participate, a positive attitude, all the while looking for the information that is for their greater and highest good, not just what they want to hear.   It is with that spirit of giving, that the client will most certainly find themselves receiving!

Always remember, the universe wants to help us to heal and move our lives forward.  It is us who close the door, by looking for ways to not be open to what comes through in a reading.  One’s level of ego, denial, and emotional confusion can be like a brick wall.  And what’s unfortunate about that brick wall, is that it only hurts the client – no one else.  We must let go of the old patterns – the same patterns that would continually say, “If you were really psychic,” to a reader who doesn’t mimic the current emotional level of understanding possessed. 

 There is a classic story that says, “Give a man a fish and he’ll eat for a day.  Teach a man to fish and he’ll eat for a lifetime.  This concept also applies to readings.  By just answering “yes” or “no,” it is like giving someone a fish, which will last a single day, but if the reading answers the much more profound questions of “why,” that person will be able to eat for a lifetime. These metaphors refer to the “yes” or “no” reading only being of assistance for the moment, while answering “why” will help to transform a client’s life for the better — forever.

It is with the knowledge of “why” that gives us the ability to greatly improve our lives.  That success comes by us releasing the barriers within that block us from receiving all of the guidance, insight, wisdom and information that will help us to legitimately heal our lives.  This endless plethora of divine information has been there — yes, it has always been there all along — like a treasure chest that was right in front of us that we just weren’t willing to pay attention to, notice or acknowledge.  The right information has continually been there all the while for the taking and now, it can truly be utilized to manifest the blessings, dreams and highest good that we have always deserved.

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