Voice of the Spirit

The thing that is appealing about the idea of Roger Fishman’s What I Know,is that it touches on several key points.

First, it teaches us that passing wisdom on to others is an important, meaningful part of our journey. Secondly, it reminds us that wisdom comes to us from many places, whether is is the words of a child or a lifetime of experience. It is a great reminder that the universe provides wisdom from many different sources. We just need to look for it!

For any of us who are on a spiritual path, words and phrases such as destiny, fate, meant to be, karma, karmic agreements, everything happens for a reason, and kismet are commonplace.  However, these  words and phrases mean so many things to so many people, that it would be unlikely to find two people who agree on their spiritual applications and significance in our lives.  Some of us believe that everything in life is meant to be, is predestined and a matter of fate.  Others feel that our own choices account for everything or most of what happens to us and all we experience, while there are even those who feel that this is a vast topic far too complex to be understood at all. 

In reality, all of the above words and phrases are relevant to our journeys in one way or another. It is not just a simple matter that things are merely meant to be, or to the opposite extreme, that everything that happens in life is merely based on our individual choices.  Clarifying and explaining these complex, interweaving and multifaceted dynamics from a spiritual perspective is the goal of this writing.  However, before we can clarify and explain these dynamics, there are several things we need to understand first.

How we handle our Karma makes a difference
Karma always deals with our past actions and what we did before – and the nature of our past actions determines what the karma is.  Of course, positive karma is easy to deal with, as good comes back to us based on our past good deeds.  However, the karmic repercussions of our former negative acts can be overwhelming to us when it does indeed come back.

It is our reaction to karma (especially negative karma) that is so pertinent here, because the way in which we deal with karma coming back to us, determines whether we burn off all the karma or only some of it, or, conversely, create additional negative karma through the way we handle things. This is always based on our free will and what we choose to do.  No matter what our karma is and how and when it comes back to us, our free will is ever present.

Brett was a man who amassed a lot of success in business during a former lifetime but became an arrogant, uncaring and selfish man who only cared about himself.  He didn’t experience the negative repercussions of his actions during that particular lifetime, but it was spiritually set up for him to begin reaping this karma in his current lifetime as “Brett.” 

In his current incarnation, Brett would indeed amass a great deal of success in business again, just like in the former lifetime referenced above, however this time around, he would be stripped of everything he had and lose everything.  In his current incarnation, his karma would come back as a lesson of humility to begin burning off the negative karma he created before.  Since this karma was supposed to happen, of course it did physically occur, but what is important is how Brett would respond to the situation as his free will would determine his choices and ultimately, the conclusion of this situation.

Because of his enormous ego, Brett became furious when his success started to crumble and he began hurting people again by ripping them off financially, engaging in deceptive acts to try and save his business which in turn, created even more negative karma for him than he started this lifetime with.  It is similar to having 50 thousand dollars in credit card debt and, instead of working to pay it off; you add another 50 thousand dollars of debt to your balance.

Even though there was a higher spiritual plan – a lesson of humility and working to burn off some of the negative karma from before, Brett actually compounded the problem.  He still lost everything as he was supposed to, but through his choices he now has more negative karma that will have to be dealt with in this lifetime and/or in the future, through resisting the lesson and acting out of his lower self.

You might ask, “How would a man as arrogant as Brett know what he was supposed to learn and do?”  Clearly, Brett would not “consciously” know what his karma was as he was not that spiritually evolved, but the lords of karma would not set things up to give him more than he could handle.  Clearly, Brett (at his level of awareness) knew the difference between right and wrong in the most basic sense and when his success started falling apart, it’s understandable that he could have tried to preserve his success even though he wouldn’t have been able to do so.  That makes perfect sense. 

But he knew better then to deceive, lie, rip off and steal from others – meaning it wasn’t as if he was given more than he could handle – he just let his ego get in the way as many of us do and behaved in a way that was clearly “wrong,” and therefore created additional negative karma for himself which was all an act of his free will.

Karmic agreements and living up to them
We enter into karmic agreements on the other side before incarnating into a physical lifetime with other souls; much in the way two or more people sign a contract here in the physical world.  There are past occurrences done by one and/or all parties involved (karma) that must be worked out and lessons to be learned here on earth.  Once in the physical world, these agreements require time, work and effort on our part to fulfill – meaning, fulfilling karmic agreements is not an easy thing to do.

Even though we have entered into our karmic agreements on the other side before incarnating and the lords of karma would not let us make such agreements unless we were spiritually ready to fulfill the terms, we may only do so partially or renege on our agreements entirely once we’re in the midst of the situation here on earth because free will always applies. 

You might wonder, “Why would that happen?  If someone agreed to something in their spiritual body, why would they back out on it once they’re on earth?”  The answer is simple.  It is because that from the other side, everything looks easy, as if you’re just going to come into a lifetime and simply breeze through your lessons and do exactly what you’re supposed to do.  However, when you’re immersed in your ego, emotions, defense mechanisms and false sense of sensations we experience in the physical realm, it is much harder to do the “right thing” then when viewing it on the other side without the emotional/ego/illusory perception burdens experienced in our physical bodies.

Think of it like the difference between viewing someone suffering with cancer, versus actually having cancer.  When we look at what will occur in our coming incarnation from the other side, we are viewing what we’ll go through but we’re not “feeling it” right then and there as we’re not yet really going through it, therefore, it seems far easier than it will actually be living through it once on earth.

A man named John viewed his coming journey on the other side and felt there would be no problem fulfilling the terms of a karmic agreement.  John owed another soul a debt of service because of past sins John committed against another soul; therefore, he was apparently ready to work this out.  So he entered into a karmic agreement to father the other soul who agreed to come into a lifetime as John’s disabled son, with the absolute promise by John that he would take care of his son for his entire life – no questions asked.

However, when the son arrived, the father was overwhelmed with feeling responsible, trapped and resentful that his son would never be a completely functioning man and that John would always have to take care of him. Through his human shortcomings, he disconnected from the promise he so valiantly made on the other side to this other soul.  So instead of fulfilling his contractual agreement, John allowed himself to become immersed in his ego and selfish emotions and pulled away from taking care of his son and didn’t do what he had agreed to do.

By John reneging on his contractual agreement, this altered and damaged the life of his son forever, who was never taken care of properly once John backed out on the agreement.  (Remember, John was the person who agreed to do this and once he pulled away, his son experienced great difficulty with ever receiving proper care.)  Here we see something that is quite profound yet happens every day without us even realizing it – that people don’t live up to their karmic agreements, which alters the path and the conclusion of all involved in a terribly negative way.   Therefore, John irrevocably changed the journey of his son and all involved for the worse and John will have to deal with the repercussion of his choices in this lifetime and/or in subsequent lifetimes. 

Now we’re going to talk about the different terms people would use which commonly refer to varying types of “destiny.”

When it’s meant to be
This is perhaps the easiest reality for us to understand, because if something is indeed “meant to be,” it will absolutely happen. As people, we like allness statements, black and white explanations and simple yes/no answers.  That’s because there’s no grey areas for us to have to contemplate or sort out.

From a spiritual perspective, there indeed are certain things that are “meant to be” and hard wired to happen – and therefore, they will occur no matter what we do, think, say, or choose.  Some perfect examples of this are set up before we incarnate into a gi en lifetime, where we always choose our parents (as they also always choose us), along with our physical gender, and our astrological birth chart. 

Parent/child relationships are “meant to be,” as there are always lessons and karma between parents and children that require the opportunity of a physical incarnation with everyone together for the karma and lessons to have the chance to be worked out.  Physical gender provides the basis for much of our karma and lessons as well, while our astrological birth chart is something we also set up before being born on earth as a foundational blueprint of what our life will be, as well as the possibilities of its highest and lowest potentials. 

Three souls had lessons and karma to be worked out together and they spiritually chose to reincarnate as a child, a mother and a father in a family unit.  The father and mother both had musical talent and their son was to be a great musician once born on earth. The mother was conservative, judgmental and needed to learn the lesson of tolerance, which the son was to teach her as he would be a nonconformist child.  Because there are no one way lessons as we all teach each other, the son needed to learn to accept himself, which was to occur through his interactions with his mother.  The father tended to be emotionally distant and needed to learn to become more openhearted, which was to be taught through these family dynamics.  The son agreed to be born as a male and all parties set up their astrological charts to facilitate the karma
and lessons they agreed to experience.

In addition, these three souls had more lessons and karma than what was mentioned above and because of the profound nature of all of these dynamics, we see how their incarnation together as a family unit was “meant to be” and would indeed happen as these three souls entered into the earthly family unit that could be referred to as their “destiny” and “fate.”  It profoundly laid the foundation and set the stage for all parties to experience what they agreed to and learn what they would come together on earth to accomplish and do.

When it’s not meant to be no matter what
I have seen so many people feel that they had to have something – in fact that their entire well being — and even their life depended on getting it – and many believe that because of their intense feelings, it is simply “meant to be” – it must happen.  Why would they have these feelings unless there’s a reason?  And that “reason” always translates into “Getting what I want” in the end.

However, there are certain things in life: whether in love, career, finance, or in any area of our journeys that are not meant to be – no matter want.  It doesn’t matter how much we want it, pray for it, obsess over it or wait it out.  It clearly is not “in the cards” and therefore, it won’t come to be.  There are reasons for this type of experience, but they may not necessarily be the reasons we wanted…

Stacy was a woman who met a man named Darryl in 1999.  She immediately felt a connection with him and convinced herself that he felt the same toward her.  However, Darryl didn’t feel that connection with Stacy at all and was not attracted to her as a woman in any way.  Stacy tried to initiate contact with him after they met at a business meeting in their career and for a short time, Darryl responded casually, as he had no idea that Stacy wanted to have a romantic relationship with him.  After she began flirting, Darryl, a man who was engaged at the time, immediately
ceased all contact with Stacy and never responded to her emails ever again.

But Stacy refused to see the writing on the wall and started convincing herself of things that were not even remotely true – all to justify what her emotions, desires and ego wanted.  After Darryl married his fiancé, Stacy told her girlfriend, “I know he’s attracted to me, but he’s stuck with his wife.  He may not know how to get out.  If I wait, we’ll eventually be together.  My intuition confirms this and in my gut, I just know that he is my soul mate.”

Stacy built her reality on this delusional premise for ten years, all the while thinking that one day, he was going to become her lover – but of course, it never happened.  After ten years of refusing to let go, arguing with her friends who told her she was wrong, she finally hit rock bottom and had to admit that he was never going to be hers after she tried to reinitiate contact and Darryl tersely responded that if she ever contacted him again, he would hire an attorney to deal with the situation.

Regarding the “reasons” for this experience, they are there – but they’re not the reasons Stacy, or most of us for that matter would want.  Stacy was learning the lesson that just because she wanted something and vehemently refused to let go of it, doesn’t mean that she would ever get it.  She was supposed to learn “to not get what she wanted.”  This was a lesson of humility for her and to learn that life was not just a matter of “I want it,” therefore, “I get it.”  Even though she hated this lesson, it showed her to not just lead with her ego, emotions and desires, but to look at any situation more realistically and clearly than before.

Karmic agreements where the “opportunity” is only meant to be
There are times when karmic agreements between parties are designed to provide an “opportunity” – meaning that what is “meant to be” is only the actual opportunity.  Then, what the parties involved do with that opportunity will determine the outcome.  The outcome is not pre-destined, but the opportunity itself is.

John is a man who had serious fear of commitment issues, and Judy is a woman who had been unhappy in her marriage and was legally separated, but not sure whether to divorce her husband or not.  It was predestined that John and Judy would meet in June 2005 as stated in their karmic agreement where the opportunity would be provided for them to decide whether to build a relationship with each other or not. 

If John didn’t get past his fear, or if Judy wasn’t willing to divorce her husband, the relationship opportunity would fail.  However, if John got past his fear of commitment and Judy decided to finally divorce the man she had been dissatisfied with since she was first married twenty years before, John and Judy would have the chance to end up being together.

When the two met, they were both instantly attracted to each other and the situation felt familiar.  Since there was a karmic agreement, there would be a good chance that both John and Judy would feel something compelling when they met.  For Judy, meeting John gave her the extra motivation she needed to complete her divorce as she felt like John was the perfect partner for her.  John was more reluctant, as his fear of commitment was quite deep rooted even though he really felt drawn to Judy.  However, after about a year, John did indeed get past his fears and was willing to date Judy, who by that time was legally divorced.  Ultimately, because both John and Judy got past the issues at hand, they ended up together in a successful, long term relationship that led to marriage.

Lesson driven – the outcome is conditional upon us learning the lesson
This is one of the hardest aspects of our journey and “destiny” to understand, because here we have a situation where we deeply want something, but conversely, we won’t get it till we’ve learned our lesson. We can’t figure out how come our deepest desires don’t seem to ever come true or manifest at all in our lives, as we feel we know what we want but find that it is out of reach no matter how hard we try.  Years or decades of frustration only make matters worse and we find ourselves at our wits end…But the simple truth is that there are situations for all of us where we must learn our lessons to manifest our dreams – it is not optional – what we want cannot and will not happen till we’ve learned what we’ve
spiritually agreed to learn.

Jennifer was a woman who had been divorced twice, with her second marriage being physically abusive.  It was now ten years after her second divorce yet she still hadn’t met anyone suitable to have a new relationship with.  She couldn’t understand what the problem was as she was open to dating, had joined several online matchmaking websites yet nothing came to fruition for a long hard ten years. But Jennifer’s problem is that her situation is lesson driven and not just a matter of going on enough dates till she meets Mr. Right.

First, because of her two failed marriages (especially the second one where she was physically abused), she had shut down within and had erected a defensive, protective, vibrational wall that would not allow anyone in.  This was simply designed as an unconscious survival mechanism to keep herself safe and alive.  Here, she would need to learn the lesson of letting down her wall of protection so that there would spiritually/vibrationally/internally be an open door for someone to be able to walk through.

Second, because of the confusion of being in two marriages that weren’t right for her, Jennifer had no idea what she really wanted and needed in a romantic life partner.  She just kept trying to meet people hoping that it would all just “click” with someone, but of course, it didn’t.  She needed to learn what it was that she really wanted and that would only come through taking a break from dating and learning the lesson of deciding who she is as a woman and what type of man would be the right fit for her.

Third, she felt that the abuse in her second marriage was her fault, which brought her self esteem dramatically down.  By not feeling worthy of being treated well and deserving of love, the divine universe could not bring a loving partner to her because she didn’t feel that she deserved it. Furthermore, at her current consciousness, she wouldn’t actually be attracted to a man who treated her well as she didn’t feel worthy of such treatment — it would feel completely foreign to her.  Here, she needed to learn the lesson that the abuse she went through was not her fault, that she didn’t deserve it and no longer needed to feel bad about herself for all she had been through.

With Jennifer, we see how there are lessons that she needs to learn, not once she meets Mr. Right, but to be able to meet him – meaning that her dreams won’t come true unless and until this journey of enlightenment is completed.  Like Jennifer, all of us have areas of our “destiny” that are lesson driven and in those instances, it isn’t just a matter of continuing to hit our heads against the wall; we must learn what our souls have agreed to take on or learn in order to be able to manifest our dreams.  After all, on a spiritual level we have agreed to these lessons, therefore, they not only must be learned to manifest our dreams but are necessary for our overall spiritual growth.

Choice driven – our choices determines multiple possible outcomes
Many times, the outcome of a situation has multiple possibilities, like a movie plot that can have several endings — and in these instances, it is our choices which solely determine the actual conclusion that will occur.

James was a man who had had a rock solid and honest work ethic.  In his twenties, he made decent money while always living within his means and it was clear that he would be able to continue making decent money by staying on the path he was on.  From a spiritual perspective in this instance, the outcome of his financial situation was not prewritten or predestined and was choice driven – meaning that his choices would determine the outcome.

Around the age of twenty two, James started saving a hundred dollars a month faithfully and he never touched that money.  Then, at the age of thirty, he purchased an apartment building and methodically used the rents he collected to pay off the mortgage on the building, while making a reasonable monthly profit.  Additionally, he invested his money into CD’s and safe IRA’s and just let his money grow.

By the time James was sixty five, the sum total of all of his choices landed him a nest egg worth almost a million dollars.  He was able to retire and do the things he wanted to do, knowing that his financial future was secure where he would not have to worry about what would financially happen to him in old age.

However, if we flip the coin for just a moment, we could imagine a scenario which would have the exact opposite outcome:  James makes a decent living, never saves anything because he isn’t forward thinking, didn’t invest his money and just lived paycheck to paycheck and never bought the apartment building.  When he would turn sixty five, he would have nothing to retire on and be in a difficult position in the work force because of his age, which would have James moving into old age in poverty.

When we see a conclusion, we often falsely believe that whatever happened was the only way it could have really been – after all, it’s right there for our very own two eyes to see — but that is not necessarily true at all – as often, our choices will solely determine the conclusion of the situation at hand. 

Telling the difference between meant to be versus not meant to be
There is a great metaphysical phrase that says, “When nature supports a decision, you know it is the right one.”  When everything seems to flow in a particular direction in our lives, we see exactly where the tide and current is trying to carry and take us.  This is represented by things that happen outside of our control which are separate from and/or in addition to our own personal efforts. 

It must always be kept in mind that what nature supports is often not at all what we want, or only partially what we want, while at other times, it is exactly what we’ve been dreaming of.  It is safe to assume that when, how and what nature supports is for our highest and greatest good (even when it isn’t what we subjectively want).  But more importantly, it is how we handle what nature supports in our journeys (meaning our choices and free will), that helps to shape the ultimate outcome of a situation.

Here is a situation where what nature supported was in addition to the efforts of the person involved: Cindy was an entertainer who wanted to make it big as a singer.  For several years, she tried hard to become successful but nothing much happened for her in her singing career except that she performed local shows for small audiences.  Then, nature began supporting the decision for her success as a singer through bringing opportunities to her which came about in addition to her own efforts.

Cindy hadn’t changed anything; she just continued to do what she had been doing and seemingly out of the blue, an internationally known talent manager “accidentally” saw one of her performances.  This manager liked her voice very much and offered her a management contract.  Through this contract, several other occurrences were set up that led to her success: signing a record deal, then releasing a hit album which was followed by a successful international concert tour.

In addition to her efforts, nature supported her success at several times and in several ways: meeting her manager, a record company signing her, her record becoming a success and her concert tour.  Keep in mind that many people who are equally as talented as Cindy try to manifest a successful singing career but fail.  As there are so many variables of what could have happened to Cindy and her career, from success to abysmal failure, even with a record contract and influential manager that it’s abundantly clear that nature supported the decision for her to be a successful singer.

Just as important was how Cindy handled the situation.  She was centered and grounded regarding her career: she didn’t do drugs, or take herself too seriously and had a great work ethic, therefore, she was able to ride the wonderful tide that was supported in her musical career and reap the tremendous benefits the divine universe afforded here. 

Obviously, her musical career was something that possessed legitimate elements of “something that was supposed to happen,” or else nature wouldn’t have supported it.  Of course, her choices and how she handled it would determine the outcome and she indeed did make the most out of the situation.

On the other hand, events can push us in a particular direction, even if it’s not at all what we want.  That is the case with Julie, a woman who was in a physically abusive marriage which she refused to consider getting out of.  After three years of being battered regularly, nature supported the decision for her to get out of the marriage and divorce her husband.  Seemingly out of nowhere, someone she met offered her a great job making 100 thousand dollars a years and it was a position she was capable of filling which would have required relocating to another state.  The employer would pay for her relocation and since she didn’t have kids, all she would have had to have done was to pack up and leave her husband for this fantastic life changing opportunity.  Here, nature supported the decision separate from any effort by Julie to leave this marriage, as she did nothing to attempt to manifest this possibility.  It was all done by “nature” and for her highest and greatest good.

However, she adamantly refused to leave her marriage, as she believed her husband really loved her and would change for the better, so she refused the job offer and stayed with her husband.

Julie was given the way out, but through her own free will, she refused to walk through the door that was opened for her.  Consequently, the abuse continued which eventually led to Julie having permanent physical injury and ultimately, her husband dumped her for a much younger woman anyway about ten years later.

Julie’s life could have manifested a completely different outcome than the one she chose as nature really did provide the way “out” for her – and it is compelling to note how Julie’s refusal (through her free will) to go with the tide and the flow resulted in her self destruction.  It is a lesson for all of us to always pay attention to where, how, and why nature is leading us, as it is always for our highest and greatest good regardless of how we emotionally feel at the time.

Regarding whether something is meant to be or not meant to be, it is always tricky for us to determine the truth in any situation.  We often interject or replace what we personally want with what is meant to be or not meant to be, especially when we’re emotionally involved.  Our egos get in the way and we distort what the events seem to be saying, all because our egos, emotions, and our personal wants get in the way.  We can even convince ourselves that we’re getting “signs” of what is God’s supreme will.  Of course, we pretend that we’re not being subjective as a smoke screen to camouflage  ow we’re really viewing a situation, which is way of hiding our true subjective motives.

The force of our personal will as a factor
Just because we can make something happen and bring it into physical manifestation through the force of our personal will doesn’t mean that it was meant to be or for our highest good.  We often gauge how we validate what we’ve done simply by the fact of whether we get what we want in the end or not – meaning, if it all goes our way, we find it easy to make it okay no matter how many other people get hurt in the process.

Sue was a woman who lived by the philosophy of “I get what I want.”   In early 2003, she set her sights on having a relationship with a married man she worked with named Rob.  In fact, Rob’s wife Sharon also worked in the same company, so the three of them interacted on a professional level daily.  Sue was jealous and felt competitive with Sharon and was excited by the challenge of going for something out of reach – all with the intention of winning and “flexing her muscle.”

In her mind, Sue had hoped to have the affair with Rob, cause his marriage to fall apart which she then hoped would force Sharon out of the workplace.  In the end, Sue wanted Sharon out of the picture so she could “ride off into the sunset” with Rob.

By mid 2003, Rod foolishly succumbed to the affair mostly because he was bored in his marriage, not thinking that it would be much more than a fun and diversionary fling.  However, Sue set it up for Sharon to find out about the liaison, even though Rob had no idea that Sue would do such a thing.  So when Sharon found out, she was devastated — and in humiliation, she indeed left the company. 

So because of the force of Sue’s personal will, she set into motion an affair between she and Rob – (and yes, he agreed to it which was his choice, but he never would have pursued this had it not been for Sue relentlessly pushing this issue).  After Sharon left the company, Rob and Sharon divorced but Rob and Sue’s affair fell apart by mid 2004.  The reason that Rob and Sue’s relationship didn’t work out in the long run was because neither one of them really ever cared for each other on any real level.  This was a situation that was not “meant to be,” or something that was
supposed to happen – but rather a matter of one person, Sue, forcing her personal will upon others.

Here we see how all encompassing mainstays such as “everything happens for a reason” don’t apply to all aspects of our “destiny.  “As so many people try and put everything that occurs under a simple heading such as “everything that happens is meant to be” we see that is not always true.  There are so many variables as to why, how, if, and when things manifest in our lives.  As we look at these dynamics, the question is inevitably asked:  “How then do I know what my destiny is – what is right – what am I supposed to do?” 

Realize there is no simple answer to such a question as we must always be aware of our thoughts, words, feelings, choices and everything we’re doing, because one simple and repetitive formula will not always apply to every situation that presents itself to us. 

However, there are many tips that will assist us throughout our “destiny”:  We must always realize that the conclusion of all situations won’t be clear as they are unfolding, because if they were, we wouldn’t be able to complete our path, especially when something is karmic in nature.  The process involves our learning and we must walk through the journey to complete what we’ve agreed to and as we’re making the journey, we will not be able to know absolutely everything as it is happening.

But we must believe that what we need to know will always be present.  We just have to have an open mind and not be led only by our own emotional desires.  Sure, there’s a place in life for our emotions, but it cannot be the overwhelming or deciding factor in our spiritual unfoldement.  No matter what, we must always behave in a loving way toward others and ourselves and do our best to not hurt others – never rationalizing and excusing our bad thoughts, choices, words and deeds just because it ties into what we want.  Life is never a simple matter of “I want what I want” — end of issue.

Through walking the divine path, we can fulfill our karmic agreements, burn negative karma, create good karma, build upon what is meant to be while walking away from all that is not meant to be. We can become better people, spiritually evolve, help others which in turn always benefits ourselves, learn to not inappropriately force our own personal will and make the choices that lead to the best conclusions.  Never forget that mastering this multifaceted journey will forever be a great and wondrous work in progress that we are already in the process of completing. 

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One of my all time favorite albums for meditation and spiritual relaxation is Kitaro’s evocative classic, Silk Road.
To me, the music seems to echo the soul’s journey through the cycle of life, death and rebirth. Have a listen:

You Say More Than You Think makes us think about the signals we send out to others and the treatment we are getting back in return.

Sometimes, what we think we are projecting to people may not be at all what we are really projecting.

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When most of us think of the concept of psychic attack, we envision a witch dressed in a black robe casting evil spells against someone under the full moon at midnight.  Of course this type of psychic attack is real, and also requires an amount of skill, ability, training, practice, and “spiritual awareness.”  What is so important to note is that with spiritual awareness comes responsibility – meaning that one is karmically held to the degree of understanding they possess, and their penalty is proportionate.  If a black belt in karate hits someone, the karmic penalty is incalculably greater than if a ten year old kid hits another child in school.  The person with the black belt knows better, therefore, the consequence they reap is far greater.  It is the same with the witch casting evil spells. Her karmic penalty is enormous, as she clearly knows better.

Intentional Psychic Attack by “regular everyday people”

However, the stereotype of the evil witch casting evil spells is probably the exception to the rule of most people who deliberately engage in psychic attack.  Psychic attack by “regular everyday people” happens all the time, and in this instance can be defined as follows: “The willful and purposeful directing of negative energy at another person through thoughts, wishes, words, actions, and deeds, designed to inflict harm on that person and in their life in any number of ways.”  What I mean when I said “in this instance,” are those who consciously and knowingly engage in psychic attack.  In short, it is absolutely being done on purpose.

Intentional psychic attack in the workplace

Joe is a man who was completely jealous and envious of his co worker Mike.  In fact, Joe was so obsessed with these emotions, that they completely consumed him.  Instead of doing the right thing and letting go of what he felt, Joe started wishing (in his thoughts) on a daily basis that Mike would be fired.  After about a month of this, he escalated his wishful thoughts to words, where he said out loud to himself that he hoped Mike would be fired.  He kept this up for two months.  Then, these negative desires reached their peak when he started visualizing Mike being terminated from his job, whereby Joe pictured Mike being swiftly escorted out the building.  Even though Joe knew this was wrong, he kept doing it anyway.  Joe’s jealousy was solely based on the fact that Mike performed better at work, so Joe wanted him out of the way. 

After indulging all of these negative energies for a total of four months, it indeed finally happened.  Out of the blue, Mike was actually fired, and escorted out of the building, just as Joe had so strongly been wishing, saying, and visualizing.  Mike was not slacking off, or doing anything wrong that would lead to his termination; however, he still lost his job.   So how could this have happened?

There are some noteworthy factors to note about how and why this was able to happen to Mike and how it actually all came about.  First, he had low self esteem and didn’t feel deserving of his job.  He was unnecessarily self critical, and always carried a sense of being unworthy.  That energy created an open door for psychic attack, as we attract what we feel about ourselves.  Also, he falsely trusted and liked Joe; therefore, Mike was open to Joe’s energies.  These things provided the open door to Joe’s thoughts, wishes, words, and desires.  These factors all combined gave Joe the open channel and pathway to psychically attack Mike. 

If Joe had felt good about himself and worthy of his job, and was not open to Mike, he could have never “helped” this situation along.  In the short of it, one has to be open and/or vulnerable to psychic attack for it to have any effect on their lives.  This was a lesson Joe may have needed to learn, so he could heal his issues and get his career back on track again.  Regarding your own career situation, don’t worry.  Later on in this writing, I will cover exactly what you can do to protect yourself from this type of psychic attack.

Intentional psychic attack from a “friend”

Most of us think that when someone says something rude to us, like a vicious comment that zings us, it constitutes psychic attack.  However, it usually does not, as psychic attack is mostly invisible, and not something that we see and experience as a physical occurrence such as someone verbally insulting us while pointing their finger at us.  However, sometimes psychic attack can be a combination of both the invisible and the visible.

Laura’s friend Sadie had always felt competitive and resentful of Laura from the moment they met as college roommates when they were both nineteen. As they became friends, Sadie hated whenever Laura would receive attention and succeed at anything.  When men flirted with Laura, Sadie couldn’t stand it.  In college, when teachers praised Laura in school, Sadie burned inside with resentment.

At first, it didn’t make sense to Laura why she always felt bad about herself and sad when around Sadie, until it all started to become clear.  When she interacted with Sadie, Laura could feel the hateful energy Sadie projected toward her.  “Sadie, I wanted to let you know that I got great grades this semester,” Laura happily proclaimed about her college classes.  Even though Sadie responded with the seemingly normal words of, “That’s great,” suddenly, Laura could feel a stabbing pain, as if she was being literally stabbed in the back. 

What she felt wasn’t imagined, though – it was literal psychic attack, as this is how her “friend” felt about her.  See, Sadie was narcissistic, and wanted all the glory, praise, and virtually everything to be about her.  The world was to revolve around her, and she couldn’t stand any of the attention being taken away from herself – not even for a minute.  It bothered Sadie tremendously to see anyone other than herself shine.  The fact that it was her friend and roommate Laura made it even worse, as the connection between the two was ever present.  The daily interaction triggered the competitive and resentful feelings that were within Sadie.  Instead of trying to grow past her selfishness and narcissism, she kept this ugly and dark energy going.

In addition to the energy and psychic attack, Sadie would sometimes verbally snap when men would compliment Laura’s appearance with statements such as, “Laura, you don’t look that great.  I look better than you do, plus more men flirt with me than you.  Don’t get a big head, dear.”  Here, we see a verbal zap.  But it is in conjunction with the internal, energetic psychic attack Laura had been under. Through this constant attack, she developed a nervous stomach and increased low self esteem, as Sadie’s competitive hatred and resentment was so strong, it penetrated right through Laura, affecting her emotionally, psychologically, and physically.

Unintentional Psychic Attack

We’ve seen a few examples of when and how people deliberately psychically attack, without any remorse, and completely on purpose.  But are there those who engage in psychic attack, and don’t even know they’re doing so?  Could it actually be unconscious, versus being a conscious act of their personal will?

Unintentional psychic attack that led to divorce

Jerry was a man who felt threatened by his wife and insecure in his marriage on many levels. While married, he was afraid she would leave him, even though she never demonstrated even the slightest hint of such a thing.  He also didn’t like her doing anything on her own, as he felt shut out and rejected.  On top of that, he was threatened by her good looks, even though he was attracted to them at the same time.  Jerry never consciously set out to hurt her through psychic attack, but his fear of losing her and his insecurities festered deep inside of him. 

Because of these constant issues, Jerry’s wife eventually divorced him.  However after the divorce, even though Jerry suppressed these feelings, they didn’t just go away.  So what happened is that through the power of his subconscious mind where these negative emotions were housed, he psychically attacked her often.  

For no apparent reason, she could feel something or someone pulling her, but didn’t know what it was.  She could be driving her car and feel a draining pull toward the direction of her former home, where she once lived with Jerry – the same home he still lived in after their divorce.

She eventually came to learn exactly where this pull and psychic attack was coming from, and learned to protect herself, cut this vibrational tie and move on with her life freely and peacefully.

Psychic Vampires

We often confuse the difference between psychic attack and psychic vampires – and they are two very separate things.  Psychic attack is when someone is sending out negative energies to you, whether consciously (on purpose) or unconsciously (unknowingly).  On the other hand, a psychic vampire is a person who sucks the life out of you, drains and depletes your energy and vitality.  Psychic vampires are parasitic by nature, because they’re takers and not givers.  You can think of them as “energy leeches.”

Johnny sucks the life out of the room

Johnny is a person who was depressed, never felt optimistic about living, didn’t have anything going on in his life and lacked ambition.  Because of these factors, he had very little to give to anyone else, but was always trying to take from others.  He attempted to attach himself to people who had a lot going on in their lives and drain their energy.  Johnny would enter a roomful of friends who were all having a great time and energetically, he would suck their energy and the life out of the room.  All it took was Johnny being in the room, as he was used to pulling the vitality from the vibration and aura of others to replenish himself. 

It is like filling a glass with water that has a hole in the bottom.  Of course, we all know that the water eventually drains out.  Here, the glass with the hole in the bottom is Johnny, and the water is the life force and energy of those he pulled from.  All of his friends eventually began to notice that when Johnny was around, the fun and upness would eventually go away and dissipate, leaving the proceedings with a feeling of being rather in the doldrums.

The “pull” from hospitals, nursing homes, the sick and the elderly

This process of energy draining is very common in hospitals, nursing homes, with anyone sick and among the elderly.  People in this position continually “pull” and “draw” energy from others, as they are seriously ill, depleted and in desperate need of being rejuvenated, recharged and healed.

When Marie would go to the nursing home to visit her aunt with Alzheimer’s disease, she would walk in cheery and filled with love and enthusiasm.  However, as she would sit in the nursing home, she would begin to feel really fatigued.  After about a half hour of being there, she would begin to yawn, and after an hour or so, almost fall asleep right there.  This happened every time she went to visit her aunt and she couldn’t figure out why. 

In reality, even though this was an invisible process, she was literally like a switchboard that everyone there was plugging into and trying to draw upon her healthy energy.  This is not deliberate, but rather, instinctual, and ties into the very need of human beings to survive.  Just like if someone was in the desert and in desperate need of water to stay alive, they would grab any water they could, no matter where or who it came from.  The sick and the elderly are in the same position – as they are so depleted of life force and positive energy that they just instinctively pull on others to try and get energized and healthy.  It is similar to when someone is drowning and desperately reaching their hand out for anyone to pull them out of the water.

How to protect ourselves

With everything that’s been stated so far in this writing, the essential question needs to be answered, “How do we protect ourselves from psychic attack and psychic vampires?”   Remember, for psychic attack or psychic vampires to affect you at all, you have to be open to it, and/or feed into it from what’s going on from within.  Just because someone or something psychically attacks you, does not mean that it can affect you in any way whatsoever, unless you let it in! 

1-Circle of light — The first thing we need to do is the following:  On a daily basis, visualize a circle of pure, bright, clear white light in your mind.  Then, picture yourself in the middle of that circle.  This literally shields you from external psychic attack and psychic vampires.  I like to call it your “eternal and divine bodyguard.”  Think of this shield as the spiritual equivalent of your skin, as it protects you from the elements that are out there which would be dangerous if you suddenly didn’t have skin.  Circling yourself in pure, bright, and clear white light does spiritually shield and protect you from these negative energies, regardless of whether they are projected at you or just in the ether.  I have been circling myself daily for over thirty years.  It is an absolute must for you to do so on a daily basis if you want to be safe and protected.  You can also say a prayer or affirmation as you visualize the circle of light.

Also, it is good to protect your car, property/residence, and your children in a daily circle of light.  Use the same techniques as mentioned above, except after you visualize the circle of light, picture either your car, property/residence or a child within the circle.  Doing this to our car increases the likelihood of safe travel, and the overall protection of your car when it is parked.  Protecting your property is a great shield against, burglary, trespass, and any other danger.  Regarding our children, circling them in light helps to keep them safe in their often unpredictable journey, especially with the many dangers so present in today’s world.  As parents, we’re responsible to do our best to protect our children, and in the same way you would make sure they were not walking down a crime ridden street, it is also important to protect them spiritually and vibrationally.  (I would not recommend circling adults in light, unless you have their permission.  Even though your intentions would be positive, it still potentially treads on their free will, and permission should be first sought from them.)

2-Cocoon of light before going to sleep – We are most vulnerable to psychic attack and psychic vampires while we are sleeping.  With our defenses down, negative energies have an open door to us.  It is especially good to visualize a cocoon of white light surrounding yourself right before going to sleep.  With this cocoon, don’t only picture it, but try and literally feel it, as something that is physical that cocoons you and keeps you absolutely safe.  One way of achieving this is to also see and feel the cocoon as thick, and physically real.  This helps to provide the stronger protection so very needed in our sleep cycle.

3-Keep your aura charged and clean –First, take care of your physical health.  Your physical body and your aura are interconnected.  A healthy body has a healthy aura.  Just like your immune system protects your body from infection, your aura helps protect you from negative thoughts and energies. 

Secondly, revitalize and charge your aura.  If you have ever been caught outside in a spring rain, you know how fresh and vibrant the air feels afterwards.  That’s because negative ions are released during the downpour.  These negative ions have the effect of cleaning our auras.  That  same spring shower effect can be duplicated by taking a shower which is a natural negative ion generator.

Next, charge your aura by visualizing white light coming from the godhead into the top of your head and flowing out through your aura.  Visualize this light making your aura brighten, strengthen and expanding.  Make this part of your spiritual routine and it is even better to add grounding and balancing routine as well: ground yourself to the earth and balance the chakras on a regular basis.

4-Mirroring – Another technique of protection is “mirroring.”  You can visualize a mirror surrounding you, and your property/residence.  You might ask, “What does a mirror do that helps protect me?”  In the physical world, a mirror reflects.  It is the same thing metaphysically and spiritually.  Therefore, a metaphysical mirror will reflect and deflect psychic attack, instead of it being able to reach you. 

In addition, there is one extra thing to do.  When reflecting the negativity through mirroring, you want it to be reflected into the eternal white light and not back to the source sending it. This way, it returns the negativity back to its native nothingness where it doesn’t harm anyone, as opposed to getting sent right back to who is sending it to you, which is a tit for tat thing and not spiritually for the highest good.

5-Keep the negativity within yourself down – The reason we need to keep the negativity within ourselves down, is because those energies only contribute to our ability to be psychically attacked and/or drained.  Our internal negativity is a magnet which draws to us more negativity, and also contributes to and increases out ability to be psychically attacked.  Keep in mind that our strong emotions attract spirits to us, and when those emotions are negative, we attract negative spirits.  If we’re under psychic attack and/or holding a lot of negative emotions inside, this incites, excites, and facilitates negative entities such as elementals, earth bound spirits, and evil entities. 

A-Elementals come in several types. One type is base entities such as spirits of trees and nature.  Another is type is various thoughts of revenge, desire and other strong emotions that have been sent out (either deliberately or inadvertently) and are floating around the ether.  These elementals tend to attach themselves parasitically to human psyches, and feed off emotions and base desires.  They are fueled by our negative thought forms and are given life (and purpose) through our negative projections. 

B-Earth bound spirits are spirits who are stuck here on earth for a variety of reasons.  They may not know yet that they’re dead, as in people who were in a sudden plane crash. They could be confused and not know where to go, as in going into the white light of unconditional love.  Some earth bound spirits also may not want to cross over, as they’re emotionally attached to people, situations and/or circumstances here in the physical world.  A spirit who left their body as an alcoholic may hang around bars and energetically suck off the people who are drinking, to still experience the vicarious thrill of alcohol.  Those who commit suicide can often get stuck and be earth bound as well.

C-Evil entities also come in quite a variety, but think of them as being the spiritual equivalent of alley rats who attack and bite because that’s where they’re at in consciousness.  It is the same thing with psychic attack.  You don’t have to do anything per se to get attacked – it’s more of a matter of being open and/or vulnerable to it – or unintentionally feeding into it.  If evil entities are able to connect with you through any open door you’ve opened, the attack is on.  They operate much like viruses that try and infect your computer – once they get in, they’re hard to get rid of.

Any kind of negative spiritual entity strongly feeds off of negativity — it is just like a crowd inciting two people who are ready and willing to fight.  The negativity is already there from the two people, which the crowd feeds off, and they in turn add fuel to the already existing fire from their own “excitement” – literally just like pouring gasoline on fire. 

6-The cleansing – In the short of it, you don’t want any of these type of spiritual entities attached to you, or in your residence.  This is why it is so crucial to surround your property/residence in a circle of white light every day.  Not doing so is like leaving your doors unlocked.  Often, a drifter could just walk in.  It is the same thing spiritually.  Circling your property and/or residence literally locks puts up a tremendous shield, so negative spirits and entities don’t have an open door to walk through.  However, if that happens for any reason, here are some great and simple techniques that will banish and get rid of them:

A-Wash portions of the woodwork and windows in every room of your residence with warm salt water.  If the psychic attack/entitie(s) are strong, I would recommend washing once a week for four weeks straight. 

B-Place a bay leaf in every corner of every room in your residence and leave them there for several weeks up to a few months.

C-Light a single white candle in your home and have no other candles burning.  This brings spiritual cleansing to your home and your vibration, and helps to banish negative entities and psychic attack.  (Make sure to NOT blow out the candle.)  If you’re worried about leaving it burning, get small votive candles that last for a few hours at a time and burn one candle daily or frequently until you’ve removed the negativity.

7-Don’t be too open psychically – It is important to never be too open psychically.  There is a skill and an art as to being open in the right way and to the proper degree when giving a reading and in daily life.  Never forget that it must be learned and executed correctly.  I’ve seen many people run into serious trouble through being too open psychically and not even knowing it. 

If you want to do readings, make sure to find a teacher in your area who is skilled and ethical, who could teach you how to turn your psychic ability on and off and how to control it.  Continually being psychically open leaves one extremely vulnerable to psychic attack.  Just like with anything, too much, too soon, is a disaster.  As we open up psychically, we change our entire relationship to ourselves and the world, and this change must come about gradually – not all of a sudden or all at once or we’ll throw out entire being out of balance and open ourselves up to serious psychic attack and negative entities who can wreak havoc in our lives.

Protecting yourself is of utmost importance and all of the tools included here will help, but the process of developing one’s own psychic ability must be done correctly.  In the same way you wouldn’t go from being skinny to immediately lifting hundreds of pounds of weight as a bodybuilder as it could permanently injure you, the same thing holds true with the psychic process.

Those who are being psychically attacked by “spiritual entities” and through being too open psychically, often hear disturbing voices and feel a creepy presence brush up against them more than once.  They may have unusual nightmare with frightening entities in them, see dark shadowy figures and feel like they’re being watched where they live.  Some have awakened from a dream and see a dark figure above them, and feel that their body is being physically held down in bed. These are just some of the symptoms of being psychically attacked by spiritual entities.

Of course, these types of experiences should never be allowed to continue, or considered “normal.”  All of the techniques outlined above help to resolve these issues, but here is one more technique, perhaps the final step needed to eliminate psychic attack in our lives.

8-See the source of attack in a gold circle – Wherever the psychic attack is coming from, we of course need to protect ourselves, but also, we need to neutralize the energy at its source of origin.  We do this by picturing the source of psychic attack in a circle of pure, bright, clear, golden light.  This helps you to sever the “negative” ties and energy, leaving you free of the psychic attack that had burdened your journey.  This visualization can be done daily for as long as the negative energy is still present.  If you’re not sure where the psychic attack is coming from, try this:  Picture your circle of golden light, and within the circle, envision the words “The source of psychic attack in my life.”  That will help this exercise to reach its proper destination.

Keep in mind that we usually think of attack as something very physical: vicious words, rape, car accidents, robbery, and murder.  However, the “attack” we’re speaking of here is mostly invisible – but still, just as potent as anything we witness with our own five physical senses.  Therefore, we must take it upon ourselves as spiritually minded people to not only protect ourselves physically, as in locking our doors at night, but spiritually as well.  We do this by becoming aware of and utilizing all of the wondrous tools and techniques the divine universe affords us to protect ourselves from psychic attack and psychic vampires.  Nothing can hurt us that we don’t let it, or feed into through our own state of being, which we must always work toward perfecting – with the ultimate goal of being a complete circle of light, love, peace, harmony and well being.

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Goal: To be spiritually protected from external negativity at all times and in all ways.

I am now surrounded in a circle of pure divine white light, protecting me from any and all evil, attack, danger and harm!

Extra bonus affirmation:

The light of God surrounds me.
The love of God protects me.
I am safe from all harm.

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