Throughout our lives, we’ve not only absorbed the negativity of our environment and all that was around us and programmed into us, we also learned to think and speak in such ways that are negative and harmful to us, creating the very reality that we certainly don’t want. The great spiritual master Catherine Ponder said that if you don’t like your life, take a look at it and realize that you created it. This may sound punitive, but it is not. It is empowering to know that if you created your life as it is now, you can most definitely rebuild and change it for the better!
Often, we seek to transform our lives through the power of affirmations. However, most of us have experienced or known someone who has faithfully affirmed for years; even decades, yet manifested little or no results. Why is this? Because, we often possess internal blocks, barriers, negativity from our environment, as well as our own negative thoughts and words, which have been lodged in the subconscious mind. These “realities” are the exact opposite of what we are trying to affirm, creating a complete war of the wills. Therefore, it is not enough for us to just affirm what we want. That won’t in and of itself get the job done. We must look at what our issues are within, acknowledge those factors honestly and heal them, along with affirming.
The subconscious mind
First, whatever you take in from external sources, as well as what you think and say is forever being recorded, “picked up” and stored by your subconscious mind; 24 hours a day – 365 days a year. So what does our subconscious mind, something most of us view as being quite illusive and mysterious, have to do with how we create our reality and all we manifest?
Simply stated, the subconscious mind “picks up” whatever it receives, meaning anything externally, as well as all you think and say: screaming, daily conversation, your hopes, dreams and fears, negative talk and positive talk, celebration and condemnation, humor, as well as the most causal of seemingly insignificant utterances. It doesn’t matter if what you say is on purpose or not, as our subconscious records everything.
The subconscious mind cannot differentiate between right and wrong. As it is neutral, it doesn’t recognize good as being the opposite of bad, therefore it does not filter out anything at all. It cannot censor you. Even if you don’t directly tell your subconscious mind your requests, it is always listening, and will “pick up” whatever it receives. But it doesn’t just stop there — as in functioning merely as a tape recorder.
Our subconscious mind will also work toward sending out what it receives and stores, and projecting it out into the universe. It is being projected to create and manifest reality. Again, the subconscious mind cannot separate right from wrong. That is why we must dislodge the negativity stored in the subconscious, as the negativity helps to block our affirmations from working, and/or gets sent out along with our affirmations, and contaminates what we positively say.
Our internal blocks and barriers
If we wish to manifest our dreams through affirmations, we need to look at some very critical factors that cannot be avoided. These are our internal blocks and barriers that we carry. I cannot stress how vitally important it is to address and heal these issues; “our stuff,” so to speak, if we want to truly manifest our dreams!
I would like to introduce a man who will be referred to as “P.” Think of his situation like a Mexican standoff: If P is defensive toward intimacy within and fearful of commitment, that is a brick wall within him. That “brick wall” will block the effectiveness of an affirmation designed to bring a new lover into his life. He must work on letting go of his internal walls, and releasing those old negative attachments. That is what will open the pathway to the subconscious mind, which is where our affirmations must reach if we want them to actually work. It would literally be like having completely clogged arteries, which must be opened up if we want the blood flow to get through our bodies.
This is a tricky process. Often, our defenses DON’T want us to heal – that’s right, our fears, ego, and emotions DON’T want us to heal! Why? Because, we are protecting ourselves based on our fears; and fear is about survival. Try talking yourself into choking to death. That’s how your fears – any fears, see it. Trying to overcome the fear is akin to choking to death.
Meaning, P does not really want to let a new lover into his life. Therefore, he is conflicted. His emotions, fears, ego, and defenses are bound and determined to prevent anyone from coming into his life, as it would threaten his survival.
Then, another part of him may say he wants a new lover. That could have duplicity, though. On one hand, he may only be ostensibly saying he wants someone new, when in reality, he does not. Why? To avoid his fears from being detected, because once they are detected, they cannot stay hidden from view and continue to control and protect him. If he claims he wants someone new, then his fear is not able to be looked at honestly. It could be rationalized by P that he simply hasn’t found anyone yet, but is trying. Never forget that defense mechanisms fight tooth and nail to stay alive, as well as disguise themselves in any way they can.
On the other hand, he may legitimately want a new lover, but just does not know how much his fears are in the way. Even if is not a game on his part as mentioned above, these fears will still prevent his affirmations from doing anything for him. So either way, the fears must be looked at, addressed, and healed!
“J” is a woman who definitely wants a new lover, and claims she only wants a nice, positive partner. However, she is emotionally attracted to abusive, cheating, and arrogant men who won’t commit to her, as it is exciting and dangerous. This is what she really likes. Here we see a definite conflict. When she says an affirmation for a new and wonderful lover, her emotional desires will ALSO get sent out with her positive affirmation. It is like preparing a lovely casserole and stirring poison into it before cooking it. What would come out of the oven would be a disaster. It is the same thing with the type of man J will attract – as yes, she is sending out energy, but propelling dangerous mixed signals into the universe, which is what she’ll get back, unless she heals her emotional nature.
Therefore, it is paramount that J works on healing her emotional issues, as she, like all of us cannot stop sending out what we feel inside when we’re affirming. It is like saying that our penthouse is clean, but our basement is filled with toxic waste, and somehow, that will produce a clean home. Both must be cleaned – not just one or the other.
As we see J’s situation, of course it is not self-flattering to her. Therefore, it is likely that she will not admit that this who she really is and what she actually desires. Who wants to say that they are asking the universe to bring them a cocky, cheating, arrogant, non-committal jerk? No one would.
So when J indeed met her new “bad guy,” the rationalization was that he and she have chemistry. She further went on to defend him by saying that no one’s perfect, and that she can’t help who she loves. As the magnetization (that she pretends is positive, too strong and valid to deny) consumes her, she stays in the relationship
However, J, as well as any of us who are in her position must acknowledge what we really feel and want, and look at the darkness within and the choices that build upon that darkness – without judgment, but with self-honesty. Why? Because a million positive affirmations won’t make J’s dreams come true, unless she heals what is self destructive within her in addition to affirming. Here we see that in reality, J is getting what she really wants – what she emotionally wants. She may claim the contrary; how she longs for a healthy relationship, but it’s not true.
In addition to the powder keg of J’s situation, we should also avoid affirmations that push our hot buttons and attack our defenses. If “S” hates her ex husband “M’s” guts, it would be hard for her to affirm: “I love M unconditionally and appreciate all he has ever done to me!” (Of course, she needs to eventually reach that point in her spiritual development to be at peace, but she might not be ready yet.)
So here is an alternative: “I now release my former relationship with M to its highest peace and highest good!” We must try to not engage our defense mechanisms when affirming, as they will fight back, and make the affirmation ineffective. It is always better to not collide with our defenses if at all possible, to allow the affirmation to have a more open pathway to the subconscious. At the same time, we must keep working on healing our defenses and what created them in the first place.
We should also try and stay away from words and phrases that we can’t wrap our minds around, such as statements that are too big for us to believe. If “C” can’t conceive of being a multi millionaire yet, she shouldn’t affirm that she is one. Because she can’t conceive of this as a true statement, she would be better to say: “I now receive wonderful financial blessings today!” Since she can’t grasp the concept of being a multi millionaire at this time, she is leaving the dollar amount to infinite intelligence, which is fine. Once she is able to conceive of being a multi millionaire, then she could affirm that reality directly.
Letting go of the internal blocks, our barriers within, and healing our deepest and darkest issues allows us to dislodge the negativity that has been present in our subconscious minds, which is necessary and essential. Beyond that, we need to take a clear look at our words, get rid of the negative, and clean up our vocabulary, so to speak.
Our words
Whether you realize it or not, right now, at this very moment, you are helping to create your reality by all you say – literally by every single word that comes out of your mouth. What we say can cause us to be a beacon of health and well-being, win 200 million dollars in the lottery, and manifest a career of dreams; or on the other hand, our words can create catastrophic illness, debilitating backbreaking poverty, and complete frustration in our jobs.
In reading this, you might ask yourself, “How do the words I say in my normal daily life actually create reality, as in my health, wealth, and success? Don’t words just come and go?” As we have established the unbridled force of the subconscious and that it is power without direction, we now need to look at how our words are a part of how and what we manifest:
1-Words are energy; powerful energy. This includes the actual meaning of the words, and the emotional/vibrational intensity behind them that comes from within us.
2-Once voiced, that energy is sent out to the entire universe. (It doesn’t matter whether the words we say are positive, neutral, or negative, as the subconscious does not filter or censor the meaning of what we say.)
3-Our words begin to register an impression in the spiritual planes, as indicated by what we’ve said, the energy behind what we’ve stated from within us, and the force of our subconscious minds. (This process can be referred to as “carving out reality.”)
4-The degree of how powerfully our words are registered has to do with severable variables:
A-The degree of how much emotional/vibrational power is behind our words.
B-The amount of times we state something, as the more we say anything, the stronger it gets registered.
C-The degree of how much we believe in what we say, or not.
5-As impressions are registered in the spiritual planes based on points 1-4 above, those impressions create actual “reality.” Finally, “reality” as we know it reaches us in the physical world, and is manifested in our daily lives.
Think of it like being a painter: The painter starts out with a blank canvas. This can be thought of as the infinite and open-ended possibilities of our words.
The choice of colors, brush strokes, and designs by the artist create a picture. Our words do the same thing: They absolutely shape and create what we manifest in our lives.
When the painter has completed his or her picture, it is the result of many artistic choices. This is the same thing that happens with our lives, as what we create is the end result of our many words, combination of words, and the emotional/vibrational power behind all we’ve said.
In realizing just how much our words create reality, it should cause us to stop and think of just how important it is for us to watch every single word that comes out of our mouths! This is why it is so important to be aware of what you say all of the time. It is our job to make sure that everything that we say is for the highest good of us as well as others.
Negative words must go
Most of us think of our negative words as casual utterances or a way of venting what we feel, and only relevant to the passing moment in which they are said. If we speak of being broke, we’re just expressing what we’re going through. After all, shouldn’t we able to talk about what’s happening in our lives?
Saying we hate someone is merely thought of as “letting it all out,” because that person did something bad to us. Their actions made us angry, and therefore, we have the absolute right to verbalize how we feel. “What’s the big deal,” one might ask? “I only said that I don’t like them.”
Complaining about our health problems day in and day out is believed to be just a way of sharing with others the trials and tribulations of our life. After all, the pain and suffering is all consuming to us when we don’t feel good.
So we just keep on talking, and don’t really stop and think that our words do far more than merely come out of our mouths, and then simply scatter to the four winds. Whether positive, neutral, or negative, what we say forever changes destiny. Our words create, carve out, and design the very reality we live in: day-by-day, hour-by-hour, minute-by-minute, and even lifetime after lifetime!
We cannot always control our feelings or our thoughts, but we CAN control our words. So our first step is to stop voicing the negative. Keep in mind that whether viciously shouted, or said in passing, all that we negatively say will dramatically affect our lives, the lives of the others, and the entire world for the worse.
Of course we won’t completely stop voicing negative words overnight, but through time, we can weed out the words that don’t serve a higher purpose any longer. We start this process by making the commitment to no longer saying the things that harm ourselves and others.
Top 10 things to never say
Here is a short “Top 10” list of some things that we should never say:
1-We should never voice hatred, resentment, or viciousness about anyone or anything.
2-We should never affirm that we are broke, or don’t have money.
3-We should never refer to ourselves as being sick or unhealthy.
4-We should never verbally wish anything bad upon anyone.
5-We should never judge, criticize, or condemn others, (regardless of what they may have done).
6-We should never speak badly of, judge, criticize, or condemn ourselves.
7-We should never refer to others or ourselves as being unimportant or worthless.
8-We should never refer to our own or another’s physical appearance or any aspect of the body as being ugly.
9-We should never yell, scream, or verbally attack anyone.
10-We should never say that our lives won’t work out for the best.
In addition to this “Top 10” list, the biggest problem most of us usually have is speaking when we’re angry. There is such a tremendous energetic force behind explosive words, that its effect can be immediately life altering. There have been people that were so furious as they were screaming, that they immediately went into cardiac arrest, or had a stroke right on the spot. So it is of utmost importance to not say negative things when we’re mad.
If you’re angry at a person, shout this out (and fill in the blank with the person’s name): “I now release_____________to his/her highest good!” Say it over and over again if you have to. It will only help, as you’re transforming your anger into sending the person you’re mad at to their highest good. It would be like nose diving a plane into the ground, and suddenly pointing it right back into the sky and a safe flight.
If you’re angry over a situation, scream the following (and fill in the blank with the situation you’re upset over. Let’s say if it’s your job that’s troubling you, insert “my job” in the blank space): “I now cast the burden of________________to divine love!” By releasing the burden to divine love, there are no more problems. Divine love can take care of it for you!
The reason I kept these first affirmations in this writing so short, is that most of us can hardly think or see straight when we are furious. This way, even when we’re volatile, we can use these easy to remember statements, and they will absolutely help us as well as others.
Words and phrases to watch out for
Here are some key words and phrases that we must watch out for, as they will work against your ability to affirm your way to health, wealth, and success:
1-“But” – The reason the word “but” is problematic, is because it negates whatever was stated that came before it. So whatever you declare in the first part of an affirmation, becomes null and void through the word “but.” For example: “I meet a new and wonderful lover, but it comes to me when the time is right.” Even though this statement might be one that we’ve heard people say, it is not effective as an affirmation, as the words “I meet a new and wonderful lover,” (which is the purpose of this statement), get negated by the word “but.”
2-“Will” – The word “will” immediately puts the affirmation in the future, which does little or nothing to make our requests happen. If one said, “I will be rich and successful,” they have done virtually nothing to achieve that goal with this affirmation. Affirming in the future does not help us reach our goals, as we must always affirm everything in the present tense, where we can manifest our dreams. Other similar words and phrases to watch out for are: “Someday,” “Down the Road,” “Later down the road,” “In the future,” and “At some point in time.”
3-“Maybe,” “Perhaps,” “Possibly,” and “We’ll see” – These words do not indicate anything definite, and because of their wishy-washy nature, don’t work well in the context of an affirmative. Here is an example: “I am perhaps going to purchase a wonderful new home today.” Here we see how the word “perhaps” proves to be ineffective. Of course these words and phrases have their place in the English language, but are not effective when trying to manifest through our spoken word.
4-“If” – Usually the word “if” is not helpful in affirmations, as it is a word that is contingent on something else other than what is stated in the affirmative happening. However, there are times when “if” is useful. When we don’t know what to do, and are not sure what to ask for in our lives or a given situation, the word “if” can be of help spiritually. For example: If a woman didn’t know if she was supposed to reunite with her husband or not, the following affirmation could apply: “If it is for the highest good for me to reunite with my husband, he comes back into my life today, under grace.”
“Under grace” is a phrase that means “a gift from God,” which is based on God’s unconditional and perfect love for us. These gifts are not earned, or worked for by us. This is most important, then, as many of us feel unworthy of receiving blessings, often based on negative reinforcement, which has been picked up and stored by our subconscious mind. Saying “under grace” helps us to transcend our feelings of low self worth, and allow our miracles to come to us.
5-“Should of,” “Could of,” “Would of,” – These phrases represent regret and a sense of non acceptance for our actions and choices. Therefore, it would be unlikely for these phrases to be of any help when affirming.
6- Negating or Denying – The use of “negative” words such as “don’t,” “can’t,” “won’t,” “never,” “not,” and “doesn’t,” are not often used in affirmations. Sometimes though, they can be of use, but it is tricky as to when and how the concept of using words, which negate and deny something are helpful.
If we negate or deny something, we must immediately follow it with a positive affirmative. For example: “I am not poor, as financial abundance now reaches me under grace!” Here we see that we are following a denial with an affirmative.
To only say “I am not poor,” would be a disaster. Why? Because the subconscious mind is unable to conceive of not doing something; it is only capable of doing something. It is like having a car that can only go forward, but not backward. So the subconscious might pick up this statement and not process the “no” in it at all, but instead, register it as: “I am poor,” which would produce the exact opposite results of what we want!
Therefore, as we’re looking at the many variables and complexities in our choice of words, we must remove all negativity from our vocabulary and incorrect ways of speaking, if our sincere attempt is to use our affirmations to manifest the positive life we divinely deserve.
We can now let go of the internal blocks, our barriers within, healing our deepest and darkest issues, stopping all of the negative talk, as well as learning what to do and what not to do. Therefore, we clear a most profound pathway – a highway to eternity, the road which allows us direct access to our subconscious minds – where we possess enough power to transform the world. This allows the true magic of our positive affirmations to work for us.
The power of affirmations and how they work
It would be easy to start thinking back on all of the negative things you may have said, and begin to ask yourself: “Haven’t I really said a lot of bad things before? Oh my God, how can I really begin to make my words work for me now?” First off, all of us have said the wrong thing, so don’t feel guilty! Remember, as words can destroy, they can also heal. Now we will see exactly how our words can not only heal, but bring us miracles.
An affirmation is a verbal declaration, and a confirmation of reality. It is the manifestation we wish to bring to us, and our spoken word propels our verbal requests into motion! Like a rocket ship racing to the moon, our affirmations travel beyond space and time, and come back to us, right in front of our very eyes. As we now know what to do and what not to do, our affirmations can indeed work for us.
In reality, there is no future or past, except within the illusion of time in the physical plane. Since time doesn’t really exist at all, there is only now – the wondrous, glorious, eternal now. So when affirming, we must always state our requests in the present tense; in the here and now. Doesn’t it make perfect sense? If we’re declaring our words into the spiritual realms where there is only now, we would have to state our demands in the present tense to manifest our divine desires.
So saying an affirmation in the future does little or nothing to make it happen. For example, saying: “I will be healthy” is a waste of breath. By stating our request in the future, we step outside of “now” and reality, and into a nonexistent future. Therefore, we come up empty handed. What we need to affirm is: “I am healthy.” By affirming our demand in the present tense, we help to make it come into being.
An affirmation needs to “cover the ground,” and must absolutely be a complete statement. A woman once said to me, “Jim, I just want a man who is really going to be in love with me.” I asked her, “Is that all you’re asking for? Do you realize that you really won’t get what you want?”
Let’s analyze why this statement was self defeating. First, what did she ask for? She simply and only asked for a man who would be in love with her. That was her sole petition to infinite intelligence. What if a man came into the picture who was indeed in love with her as she asked for, yet she wasn’t attracted to him at all? What if that man was an abusive alcoholic? Since her affirmation didn’t “cover the ground,” it leaves a million doors open to allow the WRONG man to enter her life – yet someone who would be in love with her.
Here would be a good affirmation for this woman:
“I now meet my perfect, divine romantic life partner who is in love with me!”
Here, let’s analyze this affirmation: It covers time but stating the phrase: “I now meet.” That means that this meeting occurs in the present tense. We only want to affirm in the here and now to be able to bring our blessings to us.
It covers everything that he should be to her by referring to him as: “my perfect, divine romantic life partner.”
“Perfect” means that he is absolutely the right man for her in every way. One could never make a list long enough to represent all of the qualities any of us would need in a partner. (I’ve actually known people who have tried to map out the list of everything they want in a mate, and some of these lists were anywhere from 10 to 100 pages long!) So the word “perfect” covers everything.
“Divine” means that he is sent from a higher spiritual energy. This means that he’ll bring out her higher self, and vice versa. In short, he is sent from the vibration of the highest possibility and greatest good!
“Romantic” means that this won’t just be a friend, but a lover. Romance is of course better than just sex in a relationship, so the word “romantic” represents a lover who comes with the right energy; one that is beautiful.
“Life partner,” indicates that this would be a permanent union, and not merely temporary.
Finally, it also declares that he will be in love with her by stating: “who is in love with me.”
So as we see, every single word of an affirmation must be chosen specifically and correctly, as to be a complete request in every way; leaving no stone unturned. Remember the universe will tend to grant our requests quite literally, so we need to make sure that what we’re asking for is really and completely what we truly want!
NOTE: In addition to being said out loud, an affirmation can be written, or spoken silently within your own mind. Whether, said aloud, written, or spoken silently within, there must be no external noise distractions around you when affirming, such as television, radio, or people talking. Why? Because those things could get sent out along with your affirmation, which would be like multiple people all talking at the same time. Will the message and request sent out be singular and clear? Of course not!
If you’re affirming in your car without the radio on and your windows are rolled up, that is OK. The same would apply to affirming in the shower, as that noise is not content based.
A cautionary note
First, I would not recommend that you try and design affirmations yourself, unless you’re going to study this process extensively, as to not create affirmations that are wrong, incomplete, or harmful. Florence Shinn was pivotal in her design of affirmations, and her book of her complete writings is still available, and you can click here to purchase this classic book. This book of her complete writings is reasonably priced, and has many truly great affirmations that you can use safely and effectively.
Also, I’ve been designing affirmations for over thirty years. I have found that what is most effective for me and my clients is to come up with an affirmation while offering a reading, as I am in your energies directly. Since I’ve done it for so long, I can create an affirmation for you instantly, and then say it right back to you. Even though I would always offer valid affirmations, they also need to feel right to you. Often, the changing of words or phrases makes all of the difference in the world. Since I use my clairvoyance to feel what words will click with you, while still adhering to the correct principals of affirmations, I can choose the words that will be most effective all the way around. I can send it to you right on the spot, and it’s yours, at no extra charge. That is my gift to you!
The gift of affirmations
Think of your words and affirmations as your magic wand, a tool for transformation, and your ability to literally change the world. In addition to all of the tools in this writing which are essential, you must believe in what you say! It is imperative that we have perfect belief and faith in everything we affirm. Florence Shinn said that if we had perfect faith, we would only need to say an affirmation one time! Therefore, our work is not only learning to affirm correctly, but having the unshakable faith that moves mountains – and yes, every one of us can do it! Furthermore, we must do it if we want our affirmations to work for us.
Speaking your way to health, wealth, and success, is one of the most effective ways to heal your life. We must mean every single word from the core of our being when affirming – and not question the results…We already know the outcome.
If your name is Joe, and someone asked you what your name was, you would simply say, “Joe.” Imagine if that person challenged you and said, “Your name isn’t Joe.” What would you do? You would chuckle, walk away, and forget this was even said to you! That is perfect faith! Faith is not crying on your knees and begging! Faith and perfect belief are matter of fact! Does the sun rise in the morning? Are my affirmations going to manifest? Both questions must have the same answer! YES!!!!!
It is with this faith that the gift of affirmations becomes not just window shopping, but you receiving the gift of the entire store – as everything that is yours by divine right can now reach you today — this very day, under grace. That is what makes this a world of magic, wonder, and eternal blessings — all released through the atomic and endless power of your spoken word!
Here is an affirmation I designed for you to achieve this very dream:
“I now receive every blessing that is mine by divine right. My health, wealth and success are already established facts in divine mind and reach me today in perfect ways. As all of the blessings I deserve come to me right here, right now, under grace, I am eternally thankful for the wondrous and eternal gifts I always receive. Today is the day where miracle after miracle occurs in every area of my life!”
May the eternal love, light, blessings, and miracles you so rightfully deserve now be yours — Jim
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