Voice of the Spirit

When we first began our human reincarnation journey on earth (much longer ago that we can now comprehend), we were cast down from the Godhead as a fragment (meaning that we perceived ourselves as a separate entity), where we began this long journey that we now know as life, death and rebirth. At that time, another fragment (or soul), was also cast down from the Godhead designed to walk through eternity with us. That other soul is our soul mate.

On the surface, this definition may sound simple, yet in the actual countless lifetimes we have all already led, our experiences and the situations we have found ourselves in with our soul mate are as variable and complex as any of us can imagine. This can leave us with an unclear understanding as to what a soul mate relationship actually is. 

For the purpose of this writing, it is my goal to clear up the many false and erroneous concepts which are propagated regularly throughout popular culture regarding who and what our soul mate is. From scam psychics who will tell you that anyone you’re attracted to is your soul mate to inaccurate spiritual teachings, the distortion of this spiritual term has been at the root of much confusion and problems in today’s relationships. Ultimately, I intend on assisting you to manifest a life of fulfillment and happiness in the midst of so many emotionally charged and confusing misconceptions about the concept of the term, “soul mate.”

The spiritual aspects of a soul mate relationship

The nature of a soul mate relationship is based on the karma (both good and bad) that the two parties involved have created with each other and how that applies to this current lifetime. Since all of us have created karma (both good and bad), there will be karma between soul mates. Because soul mates have been together since the human reincarnation journey began, the possibilities for both good and bad karma having been created are countless.

It’s the karma involved that helps define the quality of what the soul mate relationship will be in any particular physical lifetime. That karma, along with the spiritual lessons that need to be learned (which are agreed to before an incarnation), lay the foundation of what is supposed to occur on earth. It is not as if there is a guarantee of what soul mates will experience, as the relationships can entail any range of emotions from utter blissfulness to complete misery.

Because you and your soul mate have been making this journey for the same amount of time, you and they may be close to the same level of spiritual evolution. In some situations, one soul mate can be more evolved and help the other to grow and learn. Since we spiritually grow through time and experience, it must be looked at on a situation by situation basis.

In the 1970’s, the “twin flame” concept was invented by Elizabeth Prophet, which falsely identified soul mates as practically sharing consciousness, nearly identical karma and helped to promote many of the erroneous, romantic, idyllic fantasies about soul mate relationships. When together on earth, the endless choices that can be made by either or both soul mates can do many things: burn off the negative karma that has been there and learn the lessons that are involved; or conversely, if one or both people are centered in their lower self, ego and defense mechanisms, even more negative karma can be created. It’s important to keep in mind that when positive choices are made, spiritual advancement occurs, but when negativity is increased through choices, additional negative karma is created, which is something that we should always try to avoid.

Knowing now that soul mate relationships are certainly karmic and involve deep spiritual lessons, the next presumption that needs to be addressed deals with the pop culture concept that a soul mate relationship is always a romantic one – yet the spiritual truth regarding this may surprise you.

Examples of soul mate relationships

Never forget that since the term “soul mate” is so highly charged nowadays, we tend to think of that relationship as the ultimate, be all, end all union of a lifetime – and that’s always thought of as a binding romantic relationship that is extremely sexually passionate. However, that may or may not be the case, as your soul mate could indeed be your lover, but could also be a different type of relationship: 

Twins – Tammy has a twin sister who is her soul mate. Their spiritual agreement and mission was to enter this lifetime and become research scientists together to help cure a specific disease, as that is their calling which they’ve followed on earth and became quite successful doing so.

Parent and child – Sylvia is a woman whose daughter is her soul mate and it is apparent from the moment you meet them. They have been best friends for her daughter’s entire life and they were spiritually meant to emotionally support each other through all of the various and difficult aspects of their respective journeys. 

Best friends – George and Willy are best friends and soul mates. They both had drug/alcohol problems in a prior incarnation and fed off of each other’s negative addiction patterns then. Before their current lifetime, they spiritually agreed to be best friends on earth who would help each other to manifest lives that are clean and sober. 

Partners in business – Ken has a partner in the restaurant business who is his soul mate. For this lifetime, they karmically agreed to have their relationship be based on manifesting great success in the restaurant business, which they have achieved.

A family member – Aaron and his brother Adam are soul mates and had been bitter enemies in a prior lifetime where one murdered the other. For this incarnation, they were born as brothers to be in a situation where they would have to deal with each other, with the spiritual intent of getting past the violence and working through being enemies to becoming peaceful with each other.

This may all seem odd at first to think that what I’ve just mentioned are soul mate relationships because they’re not romantic. That’s because of the erroneous information that’s been presented in pop culture and through inaccurate spiritual teachings, which is that soul mates are always lovers, period. Think of it this way: if you’re walking through the entire cycle of human reincarnation with your soul mate, the two of you will experience countless things together with a multitude of different roles being lived out.

Of course, soul mates are often lovers and spouses. However, that doesn’t mean that every soul mate relationship that is romantic is a healthy, long term or successful one. Some are “till death do us part” in a loving way, while others are not. Often, soul mate relationships don’t last because of how they’re handled, while others are not meant to be forever from the start. Yet as startling as it may sound, in some instances we are not meant to meet our soul mate physically in this lifetime. Let’s take a further look at examples of some of the countless multi-faceted variables that do indeed exist in soul mate relationships:

John and Sue were soul mates who didn’t learn their lesson

John and Sue were married with children and indeed, soul mates. However, their life together was difficult, because they both did the same negative things to each other such by being unfaithful, lying about finances and trying to manipulate the children against the other parent.

Instead of learning their lessons (which were to rise above cheating, be honorable, honest and work together for the greater good of the family and manifest happiness), John and Sue fell back into the comfort and familiarity of their egos and lower selves as they had both behaved this exact same way toward each other in a prior lifetime. In fact, that’s exactly why they brought these karmic lessons into this lifetime, as the negative karma needed to be worked out for them to spiritually grow.

However, by being so harmful to each other, John and Sue created even more negative karma than what they originally brought into this lifetime. Ultimately, they divorced once Sue found another man she wanted to be with; yet neither John nor Sue ended up in a good place in the end, as they both refused to learn what they were here to.

As they have now died, they took this negative karma with them into spirit. The fact that they missed the opportunity given to them to burn negative karma, grow and manifest happiness represents the type of soul mate relationship where one or both parties refuse to learn their lessons. What happens, then, is that they actually put themselves in a worse position, because they have created additional negative karma. It would like starting off in life with a debt of $5,000 on your credit card and ending up with a new balance of $10,000.

Putting our minds around John and Sue’s situation is hard for us to do when we think of them as “soul mates,” because we’ve been falsely led to believe that soul mate relationships always end up “happily ever after.” However, in real spiritual terms, what happened to John and Sue can and does occur.

Sometimes, though, soul mates in a romantic relationship have what most of us would perceive as a tougher road than John and Sue, which is the lesson of loss, because one of them will die at a young age or before they’re into old age. This is what happened to one of my clients.

Johanna lost her soul mate

I’ve had a client for twenty years now named Johanna who first connected to me when she was in her mid twenties months before her fiancé Jasper died in a sudden accident when they were engaged to be married. In fact, Jasper foresaw his own death just three months before it happened in a vision – and sadly, it was correct.

When I first connected with her months after he died, the message came to me from spirit loud and clear that he was indeed her soul mate. He was a musician and so was she. Their family relationships mirrored each other; they possessed the same level of spiritual understanding and had a deep connection. This was not just a case of young love – and in time, she’ll just forget about Jasper and move on. This was her soul mate. 

As you would expect, Johanna was devastated and no one around her really understood her loss. “Honey, you’ll get over it and meet someone new. You’re young,” her mother tried to always reassure. However, neither her mother nor anyone else around her knew that she lost her soul mate.

In the readings I’ve shared with her over the years, Jasper has come through with many accurate messages that have helped to explain the spiritual reasons why this happened. From the other side, Jasper promised to guide her and the three children she was to eventually have with another man who would treat Johanna well who she would also love.

So in the two decades I’ve known her, everything Jasper said came true: she did marry another man who treated her well and she ended up happy with him, had three children and her life moved forward. As time progressed, she came to accept Jasper’s sudden and unexpected death as part of the eternal journey we all walk through and by building upon her spirituality, her life evolved into being in a good place.

When our soul mate is on the other side

While Johanna met her soul mate, but lost him in this life, there are times where one’s soul mate does not incarnate with their partner in this lifetime. In these instances, it would be karmically agreed to that this was the lesson to be experienced.

One’s soul mate would actually assist them from the other side, help guide them here on earth through their lifetime and offer spiritual support from beyond. In this scenario, it’s hard for us to imagine, as we’ve only been taught one concept about our soul mate relationship: that it is romantic, highly charged, passionate and everlasting. However, in real spiritual terms, the highest good in a particular lifetime can be for one soul mate to be on the other side, based on whatever the lessons are that both entities have agreed to learn.

There can be a lesson of learning independence, experiencing separation, and that the soul mate on the other side can best assist their partner on earth from spirit in ways they couldn’t do if they were in the physical world. If you have not yet met your soul mate, that doesn’t mean that they are on the other side. In some instances, it’s a matter of you and/or they growing and reaching a point of evolution where you and/or they are ready to receive the relationship. Therefore, the growth must occur first to open the door to meet our soul mate.

We need to first grow to meet our soul mate

Cindy has been a client of mine for eighteen years, and for the first nine years I read for her, she was involved with only emotionally and physically abusive men. However, she wanted to meet her “soul mate” and be in a fulfilling marriage, so she asked me for help.

It was psychically clear to me that her soul mate was a positive person and indeed “out there” in the world, but that she would only meet him if she stopped being involved with negative men, worked on her healing and raised her vibration. This wasn’t a situation where she would meet her soul mate no matter what and that all I had to do was predict the time and place; but rather, she would have to grow in order to meet this person.

It surprised her when I said, “Cindy, if you met your soul mate right now, you wouldn’t be interested in him as he wouldn’t be what you’re into and used to, therefore, you wouldn’t even be attracted to him.” After all, Cindy was used to danger, excitement and violence.

However, with all that Cindy had been through, she was determined to get her love life in a good place, so she stopped dating abusive men and truly worked on healing her life. After a few years, she indeed met her soul mate who was completely different that what she was used to. He was educated, friendly and loving – all things that Cindy had not embraced prior. Through healing her life, she now found these qualities attractive and therefore, was able to allow this relationship to unfold. Ultimately, Cindy and he were married and are happy together today.

From WWII to the other side

There are also times where soul mates are destined to meet each other and do fall in love and live a long, happy life together in marriage. In those instances, once one dies, the one left behind won’t ever remarry, or may not be far behind to join them through death.

This was the case of Peter and Violet, who met during World War II when Peter was stationed in Germany as a soldier while Violet sang for the USO. Both just twenty years old, they met and married in 1946, a few years after they left the service, ended up having five kids and were quite happy together.

Because they had treated each other well in other lifetimes and the karma between them was largely good, they respected and cherished each other. There was no cheating, abuse or any form of deliberate hurt between the two.

Sure, she was a bit feisty and bossy, while he was a bit held back, but he grew to stand up to her, while she learned to back down. Peter didn’t have a lot of self esteem which affected his ability to earn money, but Violet encouraged him, which also helped him to ultimately come into prosperity. That was part of their karmic spiritual growth.

It may sound easy, however Violet could have stayed bossy, emasculated Peter and kept him in poverty consciousness – but she didn’t, because she was pulling on her higher self and not the darkness of her lower self. Peter could have refused to grow a backbone and believe in himself, but he drew upon his inner strength (higher self) along with the support his wife offered him, so things worked out in a positive way for them. So when Peter died in 2001 at the age of 75, Violet completely lost her will to live and passed away only two years later. They are now in spirit together in peace, harmony and joy.

Besides these examples, which represent a multi-faceted variety of soul mate relationship, there are still the tremendously inaccurate pop culture beliefs regarding the concept of the term “soul mate,” along with the many spiritual teachings that are greatly misrepresentative. Here I would like to debunk some of the most spiritually inaccurate beliefs about soul mates that many people routinely believe as spiritual truth that I have not yet covered in this writing already:

1-We know who our soul mate is – Sometimes we know who are our soul mate is and sometimes we don’t, as we often falsely base our perception on the sexual connection we feel with someone.

2-We all have multiple soul mates – Other important relationships in our life are also karmic, but we all only have one soul mate. Some falsely teach that we have as many as 20-30 soul mates.

3-Your soul mate is anyone you want them to be – There are some psychics and “spiritual teachers” who actually believe that we can just pick who we want our soul mate to be and therefore, it is a spiritual truth and real. Of course we don’t choose who are soul mate is; they were originally cast down from the Godhead along with us when we first began the human reincarnation journey.

4-As soon as you meet your soul mate, you will instantly know – Because of how we perceive a soul mate relationship to be electric, passionate, highly sexual and binding, we also think that as soon as we meet that person, time will stand still and we will know that they are “the one.” This is not usually the case, as frequently, we don’t recognize our soul mate upon first meeting them.

5-Our soul mate is the person we feel immediately sexually attracted to – Even if our soul mate is our lover in this lifetime, sometimes we feel immediately sexually attracted to them, while at other times, we may have to grow into that energy in the relationship through time.

6-Our soul mate always possess all the qualities we find attractive – We often create an ideal in our mind of just who our soul mate will be, which is based on qualities we find attractive. However, our soul mate may or may not possess those qualities, as the relationship is karmically driven and not just built on what we like.

7-Your soul mate is who you feel the most connected to – Depending on the nature of the karmic and spiritual agreements, one may or may not feel the most connected to their soul mate. If their soul mate treated them badly in prior lifetimes, they may not feel that connected to them in this lifetime.

8-Your soul mate will complete you in every way — Depending on the karma, each soul mate relationship has its own dynamic regarding the degree of completion we experience.

9-Visualizations and affirmations bring our soul mate to us – Depending on the karma of the situation, visualizing and affirming may or may not help to bring your soul mate into your life. Here are some examples where it does not help: If there’s a predestined time when you’re supposed to meet your soul mate, if your energy is blocked toward meeting them, and if they’re on the other side. In those cases, nothing you do will help to bring your soul mate to you.

10-We all have a celebrity soul mate – Believe it or not, someone wrote a book entitled, “How to meet your celebrity soul mate,” as if to say that each of us have a soul mate who is a famous celebrity. This concept is so outrageous, it needs no further explanation.

In unmasking the pop culture and false spiritual concepts of “soul mates,” we see that this picture is far more complex than most of us have ever imagined – and it begs the questions: “What about my happiness? Can I be happy with or without my soul mate? Answering those questions has been one of the main motivations for me to write this piece and I will shed light on it right now:

How to be happy

Important relationships in our life are karmic and therefore, pivotal to the progression and evolution of our journey. It is the combination of all of our karmic relationships which make up the complete gallery of our multi-faceted spiritual journey on earth. One person cannot fulfill us in all ways or vice versa, so we must look at each karmic relationship as one piece of a much bigger puzzle, which helps to define the completion of our unfolding journey in this lifetime — and not just myopically focus on our soul mate.

In fact, there was a study done where people where regressed under hypnosis. Interestingly, when asked, they did not use the term “soul mate,” but referred to a primary partner who was with them in many incarnations.

So the real question should deal with how we manifest happiness and how to proceed down that path. Sometimes we find our deepest happiness with our soul mate, while at other times that may come from another karmic relationship such as our best friend, parent, child, business partner, sibling, or even a teacher. If the karma and lessons with our soul mate are difficult, that will not be our happiest relationship. Yet, it’s important to know that happiness is ours, but that we must look at the totality of our karmic relationships to find happiness and be open minded as to who we will find it with. That is often through a combination of relationships, all designed to bring something special into our lives.

It’s important to first think of our happiness as the main goal in living, and not believing that meeting our soul mate comes first – and that meeting them will solve all of our problems by offering us a life of complete and utter bliss.

Yet, still, through pop culture and the conditioning of false spiritual teachings, we aimlessly dream about “the one,” scatter our energies through living in the future and waste time by wondering what our soul mate relationship would be like. We repeatedly ask the question: “When will I meet my soul mate?” as if that solves everything. However, that question cannot be answered through a one dimensional one size fits all answer: by erroneously claiming that all soul mates meet, time stands still, they ride off into the sunset giggling in soft, fuzzy slow motion focus and make love ‘round the clock forever and never get old.

Instead, we must debunk the falsehoods regarding the term “soul mate,” and realize that whether we meet them in this lifetime, are with them for only a while or stay with them till death do us part, we must know that happiness in this life is ours regardless. With that as our first and primary goal, we will manifest it in this lifetime.

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There, I post inspirational thoughts, as well as links to free featured articles and free affirmations I’ve written to share with you.  Also, my wife, Meremystic, is on Twitter as well and you can follow her at www.twitter.com/meremystic.

So far, I’ve resisted invitations to join sites such as Facebook because I would never compromise the privacy of my psychic/spiritual clients.  However, with Twitter, one’s anonymity is not at risk as it is with other sites, and I am excited about this vehicle to offer inspirational messages to you!

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Topic: Trusting in Guidance!
Goal: To trust in the many levels of guidance we receive from the higher and divine universe.

I now recognize the guidance that truly comes from a divine source!

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I wanted to let everyone know that I am now on Twitter at  www.twitter.com/jim1537.  There, I will post at least one inspirational thought per day, as well as links to free featured articles and free affirmations I’ve written to share with you.  Also, my wife, meremystic, is on Twitter as well and you can follow her at www.twitter.com/meremystic.

So far, I’ve resisted invitations to join sites such as Facebook because I would never compromise the privacy of my psychic/spiritual clients.  However, with Twitter, one’s anonymity is not at risk as it is with other sites, and I am excited about this vehicle to offer inspirational messages to you daily! 

Also, if you look on the left hand side of this website, www.voiceofthespirit.net, you will always find my five most recent Twitter postings, (Tweets) for you to read as well.

Feel free to join my wife and me on Twitter, and as always, it is my commitment to offer helpful, inspirational and enlightening information to assist you in the ongoing process of self healing that is so crucial in today’s world.

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I would like to offer a very special Valentine’s Day greeting to you.

One of my psychic clients was telling me her view of Valentine’s Day in a reading I was giving her just yesterday. Her simplicity and sincerity was heartfelt and heartwarming to say the least and I’d like to share some of her sentiments with all of you.

“You don’t need to buy anyone anything — just tell them that you love them,” she said. “Even if it’s not a lover, tell someone in your life that are loved and appreciated,” she went on to say. “Just let someone know that they’re special to you.”

Thanks for the inspiration!

Happy Valentine’s Day to all of you,
Jim

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 Many people utilize psychics to specifically tell them that things are indeed going to change for the better.  Demanding names, physical descriptions, dates and locations, it’s as if all answers are to be written in stone.  These clients limit a reading to merely yes or no responses; the words “if,” “possibility” or “maybe” don’t exist.  By a client wanting a reader to look at their journey in completely black and white terms, no grey tones are ever acknowledged.  If a psychic doesn’t provide those types of validations, then they are viewed as inferior, negative, not accurate or simply wrong.  When a reader uses the word “if,” it is simply disregarded by these clients.  I have to say that as an advisor, these are the most frustrating types of consultations to give.  Why?  Because life is hardly ever made up of only black and white tones — yes or no answers. 

A reading is a mirror of the pathway that one is currently on and any consultation is based on that road.  Often that pathway needs to change for things to open up in the way the client wishes them to.  In short, it is the client themselves who must change to get what they want.  Since this is often tied into one’s karmic and spiritual lessons, the change is mandatory and not optional for one to manifest their heart’s desire.  The client must grow to get the prize, like studying to do well on an exam.  It is often as clear as the analogy of someone asking when they are going to lose weight as they continue to overeat.  Never forget that a person’s expectations of any reader cannot trump or override the eternal laws of the universe, as life is a series of choices, possibilities, forks in the road and lessons.  Below I would like to address how our need to change manifests in 5 different areas of our lives and what we can do the affect that change for the better.

Money

Money equals vision – the size of our vision.  Whether tiny or as big as the endless skies, how big is your financial vision?  In the Bible, it is stated, “I will give you all of the land that thou seeth.”  This statement applies to money.  You will receive the amount of money you can envision and see.  How much money do you envision?  What are your financial expectations and limitations?

If you expect to be broke, you will stay that way.  We all have heard people complain about being broke.  Some people state it everyday.  What they may not realize is that the more they say it, the stronger it is affirmed and therefore, it becomes a reality.  You might ask, “Doesn’t that seem cruel?  Shouldn’t God give them a break if they’re struggling financially?”  What is important to note is that our reality is largely architected and sculpted by us.  It would be the same thing as wondering why God doesn’t take the wheel of someone driving drunk and recklessly before they crash.  We are in the driver’s seat of our lives, literally and figuratively!  To improve our financial situation, we need to first change our choice of words, by no longer ever saying that we are broke, period.  That alone will change one’s financial situation immeasurably.  By no longer putting it into the power of the spoken word, a tremendous amount of negativity is alleviated from our financial reality, which only helps us monetarily!

Don’t wish for something, you might just get it!  I have heard many clients first ask when their finances are going to improve. Then they tell me that they just want enough money to get by.  I immediately ask them, “You mean to say that you want to be able to pay your bills and then have 20 bucks to go to McDonald’s afterwards?”   In that context, it is quite sobering to hear.  Right then and there, I’ve seen many people change their relationship to money in a heartbeat.  “Jim, I had no idea how I was limiting my wealth through saying such a thing,” one responds.  Let’s replace the initial “Just enough to get by” wish with this request: “I want enough money to be free of lack and limitation forever!”  That change will immediately put into motion prosperity and abundance for all of us!

“I wish someone would give me a financial gift, cause I don’t have enough money to give anything to anyone else,” a client states.  “When will someone do that for me?”  Here, the client has this statement flipped around.  In metaphysical terms, what we wish to receive is what we need to give to someone else.  That will open the door for a monetary blessing to come back to us!  In this instance, one change that would open up finances for this client is to practice tithing.  Giving 10% of one’s income away charitably is a great way to bring in financial abundance to us!  As the great spiritual master Florence Shinn herself said, “To start activity in one’s finances, begin tithing.”

Ask yourself, “Do I deserve to be wealthy?”  If your answer is “no,” or “not really,” then immediately being reinforcing that you do deserve to be wealthy!  If your response is “yes,” but money has not yet come to you, keep reinforcing that you are deserving of prosperity, every single day!  In this instance, it just means that there is still a part of you within that feels unworthy of money, based on low self worth.  It may perhaps be unconscious, but the barriers need to be completely broken through internally to open the floodgates of prosperity for you!

Career

Are you doing what you want, what you love and dream of, or is work just that necessary evil to pay the bills and put food on the table?  Most of us will spend at least one third of our lives working, so it is always best if we love our work, as then it becomes play.  In the simplest of terms, I always recommend for people to do what they love doing and the rest will come; as in the advancement, money, fulfillment and recognition.  Gratitude and appreciation must be at the core of what you’re doing, to really be successful in a substantial and long lasting way. 

However, what is the solution when we’re doing something we don’t like – or worse yet, something we hate, even detest?  What if we don’t know what we want; yet we still don’t like what our current career is?  This could lead people to simply say, “I just want to make a lot of money!  I don’t care what I have to do!”  That type of attitude doesn’t work.  It’s like someone saying that they’re going to start singing today to be rich and famous right away.  They wouldn’t get too far!  The first thing we need to do is to create change, both internally and externally to make our dreams come true.

If you dislike what you’re doing, but don’t really know what your divine calling is, I would recommend to start with this change:  1) – Call upon God’s divine guidance daily to reveal to you your divine career pathway and show you what your perfect career is.  This is important, as you’re surrendering the burden to infinite wisdom.  It may take a while, but sincerely ask for this guidance everyday!  Then, sit back and just wait for your answers.  Don’t look for them, as that can create false leads.  The correct opportunities will come when they’re supposed to as correctly timed by divine mind. 

2) – While you’re waiting for the answers, begin practicing gratitude everyday for the job you currently have.  This is a change I would strongly recommend.  You might question, “Even if I hate it?”  That is precisely why you should build gratitude – because you do hate it!  This way, you turn lemons into lemonade, so to speak.  By developing a positive attitude about whatever it is that you’re currently doing, you open the door to receive more blessings.  Why?  Because negative brings more negative and positive brings more positive.  Make that change by swinging into a better attitude to manifest new career blessings! 

3) – Be willing to take the right steps in physical terms: job interviews, searching all that is available, asking people for leads and knocking on doors!  In short, don’t let your dreams just sit there and turn into pipe dreams.  Turn these dreams into reality by putting yourself out there.  Don’t just do this impulsively or intermittently- do it consistently!  The universe loves the steady energy of us working every day to reach our goals!  This change will be quite powerful for you!  It’s OK if you experience multiple rejections!  Most multi millionaires have failed in business before hitting it big!  They didn’t give up and neither should any of us. Also, start researching ways to make money doing what you like to do!

4) – “I can’t wait any longer.  Nothing seems to be going anywhere in my career,” a frustrated client says.  It’s important to change our attitude in this instance and truly be patient.  Some times tried and true clichés make the point: Rome wasn’t built in a day!  With patience, it allows God’s split second timing to come into play.  Frequently, our timing is based on, “I want what I want right now,” like a child demanding a toy!  However, God’s clock may be different than ours because often, many factors are in play that we could never humanly comprehend or control.  Leave the day, month and year to a higher power!  Also, while you’re waiting for things to unfold, make the change to start giving it your all regarding whatever you’re doing right now.  The divine universe loves a person of positive enthusiasm and will reward you for such enthusiasm.

Ultimately, we shall find the career path which is our divine calling, utilizing our unique one of a kind gifts.  We should always appreciate how we are able to offer our special talents to others, as what we do must benefit, serve and help others.  This way, what we bring to this world through our work is a Godsend for all concerned!

Family & Friends

Friendships, like anything in our lives, need to be maintained.  We can never sit back and expect a friendship to just take care of itself.  If we do, sooner or later, things will go sour.  When we find ourselves being frustrated with our friendships, we must make the changes that are necessary to improve things with those we know, while at the same time, being open to new people who are good for us.

I’ve had many people ask me, “Jim, when am I going to meet some new friends?  I really feel alone in this world.”   Often, as I look at a person in this particular situation, it’s because in reality, they choose to be by themselves.  Even though they may feel lonely, they are comfortable in that aloneness.  Why?  Because they don’t have to give, take a chance of getting hurt again, or sacrifice for others.  In this instance the phrase “To have a friend, you must be willing to be a friend” rings so true.  Often, it’s past hurts and disappointments with others that shut us down.  It’s easy to close ourselves off and find a negative type of solace in being by ourselves; an unhealthy sense of comfort – but eventually it wears us down.  However, we must be willing to make the right changes:  we need to be sincerely open to meeting new people and commit to giving of ourselves to others.  This way, the right people have a doorway to enter into our lives and even if we encounter a few duds at first, good people will make their way into our lives through time.

Sometimes people get frustrated with the friendships they have.  They may feel that their needs and feelings are being ignored and not met.  Little by little, each disappointment builds until a crisis point is reached.  We can’t just bury what we feel and still expect to maintain a friendship in a healthy and reasonable way.  The cornerstone of changing this pattern is through communication. As every friendship has crossroads, crisis points and areas of conflict, we must learn to communicate our needs and address our concerns.  It is exactly in the way these areas are resolved that largely determines the success we will have together.  There is no guarantee as to how each individual person will react to hearing about our frustrations with the friendship we share with them. 

However, we must at least try, because if the person responds favorably, our friendship with them can improve.  Not only does the bond strengthen, but also as people, both parties grow through acknowledging each other and working through conflict together.

Acknowledging those in our lives and being acknowledged is quite powerful.  When any of us are acknowledged, we feel important, special, validated and worthy!  Part of that acknowledgement can be in the form of an apology!  Whatever hurt has occurred, a sincere “I’m sorry” from us or to us is a very healing gift!

In the instances when someone doesn’t receive our concerns openly, we see the limits of the friendship.  We can try and bring about change by voicing our needs and concerns, but it is impossible to force someone to be considerate and listen to us.  It can feel like we’re running into a brick wall, but then at least we know where we stand.  That let’s us determine if it’s worth it for us to: stay in the friendship, set partial limits and boundaries, or completely separate and move on in a different direction in our lives.

As the physical world and all of its affairs are ever evolving, sometimes people just grow apart.  “What happened?  How did we get here?”  Just like you might have had a great little playmate when you were 6 years old, now as a grown adult you no longer have anything in common with this person.  That is OK!  If they were meant to still be there, they would be.  Holding on to what once was, only holds us back!  In these instances, there is nothing that can be done, expect to bless whatever was once there, let it go and hopefully, both parties will move on to more fulfilling friendships.  This change of attitude frees us to enter the next chapters of our journey with new people.  We should always try to be cognizant of all we’ve learned; take the lesson and throw the rest away (meaning the emotions) and by all means, be grateful for all that has been shared!

Even though we pick our family members before we enter an incarnation, we may choose them for lessons other than living happily ever after in a “Leave It To Beaver” household.   Family relationships are often quite complex and it is seldom that anyone gets along famously with everyone in their family.  With these ties being karmic and tying into our past lives, we must realize that there are lessons to learn!  If we’re dissatisfied with members of our family, it is important to look at what changes we can make for the better. 

We can and should try to voice our concerns and needs to our various family members.  Especially since we will be family for this lifetime, countless episodes, experiences, consequences and results will occur between them and us.  Certainly how they respond to us will shape our relationship with them, sometimes in a subtle way, while other times dramatically.  We can only do the best we can and there is no rulebook as to how close or distant we should be with our family members.  These relationships are karmic and must be looked at on a case-by-case basis.  A good guideline, though, is to always try and live by the rule of treating yourself lovingly while treating them lovingly.  Respect is a two-way street!  However, sometimes our deep and intimate emotional needs are simply not able to be met by our family members.  In this instance, God will bring us those who do fulfill us and in that sense, anyone who loves, nurtures and cares for us fills the void left by unfulfilling family relationships!

What all members of a family need to learn will evolve in the same way the plot line of a film evolves – one scene at a time.  As the plot unfolds, it becomes clear what it is we’re here to learn together, our tasks, goals and multiple purposes!  With love as our guide, whatever is the higher purpose becomes the foundation of our varying and often complicated family ties.

Love

Most, if not all of us have been hurt or disappointed in love before.  Even though our pain seems unique to us, we have all been through it in one-way or another.  So many clients ask the million-dollar question, “When am I going to meet the one?”  Although phrased so simplistically, this question often has a very complex answer.  However, one word sums up the basis of the answer:  change!  It is often us who need to change to bring in the right partner.  These changes are not optional; they must be completed to manifest the relationship God has waiting for us. 

1) – Change your emotional expectations.  Based on what you’ve been through before, you do have internal expectations within.  They may be good or bad, even complex, but if you listen without prejudice, you’ll see what your true beliefs are.  If past hurts are not healed, there will be an expectation of disappointment again.  Since it’s what you know through your experience, it becomes what you believe your future holds in store for you.  This must change.  How do we make that happen?  First, we must acknowledge openly what we really feel!  Not just keep asking multiple psychics when “the one” is coming in, all to no avail!  As we acknowledge what we feel, we can replace the negative expectations with positive ones – that indeed our love lives do work out!

2) – Let go of negative lovers.  Negative lovers are poisonous – yes, we learn from them…yes, of course, everything in our lives is a learning experience.  God doesn’t condemn our choices and we have free will to do anything we want…but wait!!  Is the goal to simply experience, or to find happiness?  If the goal is indeed to find long lasting joy with another, we must release and let go of negative lovers.  With each negative lover, it’s like gaining weight.  It you gain 5-10 pounds, losing it is quite doable.  However, if you gained 50-100 pounds over many years, it becomes a serious crisis.  The same destructive effects happen to us through multiple toxic relationships. We become angry, bitter, closed, cynical, self destructive, guilty and caught in a cycle of much heartache.  The sooner harmful unions are let go of for good, the less work, time and healing that has to occur by us to effectively make that change and meet our divine partner!

3) – Open your heart.  Most people I read for who are yet to be in a successful relationship truly believe that they are open – open to love – open to commitment.  They will even argue and defend their position.  “I am absolutely open to love!  I just haven’s met the right person yet, so when are they coming in?”  However, in reality, many are not open to love at all.  It is a smokescreen.  The fears within (based on unresolved past pain) create a protective wall, a wall designed to keep love away!  The former disappointments cause us to go into survival mode, which means that from a knee jerk perspective: love=hurt.  Therefore, love must be blocked from coming in because it will wound us.  A person in this instance either attracts no one, or people who are not really open and never offer a commitment in return. 

This change I’m about to mention is perhaps the most important of all!  Everyday, work on releasing, forgiving, blessing and letting go of all past lovers where negativity and pain have been incurred!  Then, work toward pronouncing out loud everyday that you are open to love and commitment with your perfect divine life partner!  This may take time, as one would be working through a great deal of baggage and a wall with a lot of bricks that built it!  However, don’t give up, as reaching an openness to love from within is the greatest key to bringing in someone wonderful! 

Don’t magnify obstacles!  That’s exactly what your defense mechanisms want because then you can’t get hurt again:  “There’s no one good out there” – “Good lovers are hard to find once you’re older than 21″ – “Where can I meet anyone good anyway?”  “It’s been such a long time!”  But you’re not looking for a lot of lovers!  You’re only looking for the one person who is right for you!  Do not lose sight of the fact that the right person is indeed out there.  But we must unlock the door that we have padlocked (even if we don’t consciously acknowledge or know it) for so long.  That is the change needed to literally change everything! Of course, consider opportunities to meet people as they present themselves.  If you’re looking to pro actively connect with new people, always remember to not get pulled into something negative for you.  The red flags will be there!  As you pass on lovers who are not right, you allow God to have an open door to walk through with the partner who is truly for your highest good!

Health & well-being

If you’ve read my former writings, I’m sure you would have noticed that I put a great deal of emphasis on what comes out of our mouths.  Here, though, I would like to shift that focus to all that we put into our mouths!  Of course, we’ve established that what comes out of our mouths in terms of our words, does change reality – literally.  But what about all that we ingest?  It also changes reality; in ways we may take for granted.  “You are what you eat” is an old mainstay, but how true it is!  I’ve had many clients voice concerns about their health, while at the same time not taking into account all that they take in. 

What is food really for?  Is if comfort when we’re depressed; eating a box of chocolates to ease our frustrations?  Is it there for indulgence; super size, bigger, more..?  Or is it simply there for keep our bodies alive and well?  Like a car needs gasoline, we as physical beings need food for fuel!  Of course we can enjoy at the same time, but our first and foremost concern should be eating healthy and reasonably!  Just like you wouldn’t put dirty or contaminate gas in a car, why would you poison wondrous body!  Many of us diet, than gain the weight back – only to diet again.  Besides the emotional frustration we incur, this roller coaster ride does not promote overall health and well being.  So what do we do then?

We often say that we need to go on a diet.  It sounds like doing some prison time.  But diets come and go.  We must change our relationship to food and change our eating habits and become friends with foods that are nutritious and good for us!  By changing our relationship to what and how much we eat, we being to promote a healthy body!  After we’ve redesigned our eating habits, in addition, we need to emotionally come to terms with what motivated us to eat the way we had in the first place!  Once we alleviate the actual behavior, we should then get to the root cause of why we did so in the first place, as sometimes we just don’t know why.  

Along with our dietary change, exercise is a Godsend.  Whenever God gives us something, there is a reason for it – a profound purpose.  Just like a bee has a stinger and the roots of trees grow deeper in the ground, our bodies serve a functional purpose.  Whether it’s our eyes to see, ears to hear or our legs to walk, we should never take our God given body for granted.  Exercise gives a body respect, pride, health and well-being!  Try not to get so lost in your head – and think that dwelling on the physical is somehow unevolved!  We are in the physical plane! 

Regarding alcohol, cigarettes and recreational drugs, I would recommend for anyone to try understanding why they’re involved in these various habits.  Coming to terms with the reasons why we get into certain habits, helps us to gain clarity, insight and allows ourselves to make new lifestyle choices!  Just like food, though, even if you decide to physically lessen or stop a practice, you must get to the psychological and emotional core of what motivated this behavior.  It is never just a random choice, like driving down highway 1 or 2.   It reflects on who we are, our issues and what we need to heal to achieve the overall health we divinely deserve!  Keep in mind to look at yourself lovingly and without judgment, as you’ll be working through delicate internal issues.

Besides our physical habits, health and well being are completely interwoven into our emotions.  As the great spiritual teacher Florence Shinn said, “For every disease, there is an emotional correspondence.”  We never get sick at random.  For every effect, there is a cause.  Here, we are the cause, helping to create our own illnesses and our internal states of being, even if we don’t realize it.  I’ve seen countless numbers of clients manifest serious illness through not healing their emotional natures and indulging in negative thinking.  The body is the canvas and our emotions and thoughts are the colors and pictures we paint.  Even “rational” doctors today acknowledge that emotions do indeed play a part in our overall health and well being.  In the most obvious sense, serious stress in our daily lives raises blood pressure, for example. 

I remember a female client who made negative choices for a 13 year period where I was reading for her. Back then, she started dating a very uncaring much younger man who took advantage of her financially and cheated on her.  At the time I warned her to get rid of him, as I felt this relationship would have long lasting negative consequences for her.  Unfortunately, she didn’t listen to this warning…It hit me that it would damage her self esteem and for the 2-3 years they “dated,” the damage was done.  His negative and disregarding treatment of her caused to her to really start feeling bad about herself and “not good enough” as a woman.  That led to consistent lower self worth, which began affecting her work and income.  As she was self employed, she started attracting clients who treated her disrespectfully (a mirror of how the above mentioned man treated her) and her income started going downhill.  As this cycle continued over the years (because the original problem was never healed), her income started dramatically plummeting.  This caused her to get seriously stressed. With that stress and the accumulative effect of all of this pain, she couldn’t manifest new and positive clients very well, or any real money as she was in a negative internal state.  All of the combinations of these stresses ultimately lead her to getting seriously ill about a year ago, to the point where she feared dying.  Here, we see how the body is the recipient of emotional choices and from my point of view, all of this suffering could have been prevented, by making positive emotional choices.

It is good to affirm heath and well being everyday, as without our health, what do we really have?  I remember a movie scene were a very rich aging mobster says that he’d give a couple of million dollars just to be able to feel OK for a while.  Here is a great affirmation:  “I am in a constant and perpetual state of complete heath and well being in all parts of me!  I thank God for every blessing I have!”

In addition, we must heal whatever is the root cause of illnesses or any other lack of well being!  Often, the cause doesn’t seem to be related to what our body is experiencing.  For example:  I remember someone experiencing serious indigestion!  I felt that this was due to not appreciating what they had and repeatedly complaining about their life!  That complaining created the indigestion being experienced.  When this person started affirming gratitude for their life and stopped the complaining, the indigestion went away!  What I’m mentioning here are wonderful tools to aid in healing, without any side effects!

As love is the perfect healer of everything and all, we must become a complete circle!  When we love ourselves, love everyone, cherish everything and pronounce gratitude every single day, we have given ourselves the greatest gift of healing imaginable!  For every choice based on love, we contribute to our overall heath and well being!  When we choose fear, resentment, self pity, rage, resentment or any negative emotion; it is like putting repeated doses of poison in our bodies – literally!  We can’t afford to hate anyone or anything, even if it just for the sake of our bodies!  Make unconditional love your foundation, your calling card and best friend and the world with all of its wondrous dreams will be yours! 

Believe me, I know, that changing yourself is the hardest thing that you will ever do!

You already have the tools you need and the lessons are right there in front of you!

If you can take the first steps to change yourself, you can create what you dream of in your life!  Remember, you do have the power! 

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