Voice of the Spirit

“When I am going to hear from him?  Is it in within the hour, today, tomorrow – tell me… WHEN!!!!!???  I had a hang up call earlier – that HAD to be him, right?  I’ve talked to 50 other readers, and they ALL say he is my soul mate!  When are we going to get married?  I knoooooow he loves me!”

You might perceive the scenario just stated as exaggerated, and hard to imagine, but it is indeed absolutely real.  Welcome to the world of psychic addiction, where frantic and desperate people repeat the same questions to multiple readers over and over, day and night.  Obsessively and compulsively, readers are called constantly by clients seeking reassurance, hand holding, and most of all, comfort.  Like a tape loop that soothingly plays over and over:  “This person loves you and is absolutely your soul mate.  This is God’s destiny, and of course you will be with them forever and ever.  You need to be patient!  Patience is one of your lessons, dear.”

 Are these clients looking for legitimate and clear answers, or to simply have their psychic addiction fed?  Well, that depends. Sometimes a client is so centered in their lower self (the obsessive emotions, ego, arrogance, self destructive and denial mechanisms), that they refuse to hear or receive anything other than what they already believe to be true. 

The ego and emotions want to be spoon-fed everything already believed as gospel truth right back to them, with no ifs, ands, or buts about it.  Often these clients do whatever they can to maneuver the reading to get the preconceived results they want.  They even go so far as to pretend they really want to hear the truth, only to find fault with ethical readers who disagree with them, as a scapegoat.

On the other hand, there are those who really want to grow, break the addiction, and heal their lives.  Their higher self (their spiritual self, strength and connection to God’s infinite wisdom), is looking for the truth, which brings them out of their own fog into clarity, honesty, accurate counsel and potential peace of mind.  These clients do indeed listen, and at least look at what comes through from spirit with an open mind; therefore, they grow out of negative patterns.  Sometimes that happens quickly, and other times it is more laborious, but they do get there!

And there are those who are struggling between their lower and higher self, literally at war with themselves.  These clients display mixed results, as I’ve witnessed over thirty years of offering readings.  I’ve often been pleasantly surprised at how certain individuals pull themselves up by the bootstraps, so to speak. 

As I have had successful long-term relationships with many clients for decades, each and every reading has been a vehicle for continual growth, dealing with the issues that come up, and forging new ground.  It has been thrilling for me to see lots of my clients manifest their dreams.

On the flip side of the coin, though, I’ve seen people literally self destruct and destroy their lives through negative choices, and a defiant refusal to listen to anything other than what they are currently dead set on believing.  These people continually call countless readers, praising those who accommodate their ego and emotions, no matter how dark those energies may be, constantly craving the fix of having their erroneous belief systems validated at all costs.

When someone is psychically addicted though, and doesn’t want to be helped, they usually call me just once for a few minutes, don’t like what I have to say to them and never call me again.  As I don’t feed the addiction, which angers them, they immediately find another reader amongst the plethora of psychics out there who will do whatever it takes to “keep the meter running.”

I often say to these clients, “If you’ve heard the same answer from 50 other readers, why are you wanting to me to simply feed back to you what they’ve already said to you?  That won’t really help you.  If the other readers are so right, why are you calling me?”  Because it’s like a drug addiction – if you were recently just high, it wears off, and you need another fix.  It is the same thing with psychic addiction – a client craves to hear the same information: “He’s gonna call.  He’s not having sex with her.  She’s just a friend.  He’s a really great guy who’s just been hurt before.  Of course he loves you even though he isn’t calling you.  He’s the one.”   The addicted client needs to hear it again and again, as the reading becomes the fix and the validation of what they demand to hear.

Right there, something is obviously wrong.  While I understand that these are people in real pain, it is not healthy financially, emotionally or spiritually for a client to give that type of power away to any psychic and a reading.  An honest session should never be based on what other readers have said.  Stating that 50 other readers say it’s so is designed to manipulate, twisting the arm of a reader to feed the addiction.

Any reader that doesn’t validate the fantasy, denial and addiction of the client is labeled as DOOM AND GLOOM – AND NEGATIVE!  That label has been thrust on me many times for not buying into client’s addictive fantasies. With that stigmatization, any positive benefits that could help the client heal and take control of their lives are lost.

Some clients can’t grasp how some readers see things differently, as if 50 readers saying the same thing must make it true.  Hearing that many psychics say the same thing has the effect of adding credibility to the fantasy and denial.  I try to explain to them that readings are not a majority rules type of situation, and in any profession, different professionals disagree. One reader can get it right, while 50 other readers may get it wrong. 

What’s terrible, though, and unfortunately real, are psychics who scam vulnerable clients who are in psychic addiction.  If the readings themselves don’t bring the desired results the client craves, the next step is often buying spells, paid candle burnings, and hexes to achieve the desired results.  

“Honey, I can bring him back to you,” the reader reassures.  “Really, honestly, how much would it cost,” whimpers the client? The reader pauses and gently whispers, “Well, I don’t like to charge for this type of thing, as it is God’s work, but it will take a lot of time.  What can you afford?”  “I don’t know, I mean I’m not sure,” the client clumsily fumbles.  “Well, for this intense of work, I would need at least $20,000 dollars,” the reader asserts.  “Well, I guess I could take a second mortgage on my house,” the client says.  “Yes honey, it is worth it, as this love is meant to be and then he will be with you forever,” the reader reassures. 

Of course, after the reader did not pull off being God, and the client is on the verge of bankruptcy, the client’s life often crumbles.  Broke, disappointed and disillusioned, the client may not know where to turn.  The client has been fed this diet of false hope for so long; months, years and even decades, that so much valuable time has been lost.  That time could have been devoted to growth and a truly positive journey. 

You might wonder to yourself, “How could anyone be so easily played?”  My response may surprise you when I say, “Don’t be so quick to judge anyone’s choices.”  Any of us have been vulnerable at different times in our journey, and capable of choices and judgments that are not healthy.  Keep in mind that when any of us are intensely emotionally engaged, we can all lose our perspective and center.  It’s a question of how far one is willing to take it.  For example: There are jilted lovers who literally murder their exes based on jealousy and rage, while others simply go out and find someone else after one relationship doesn’t work out!

 So when is someone experiencing psychic addiction?  Here are some tell tale signs:

• Calling multiple readers with the same questions repetitively, frequently and sometimes daily.
• Hearing the same answer from multiple readers, and still needing to call for more readings for even more reassurance of the exact same answers.
• Inability to make a decision in life without calling a reader.
• Still calling with the same questions, even though the time frame for those predictions hasn’t passed yet.
• Spending more than they can afford, and not curbing the spending, even they’re experiencing enormous financial burdens.
• Refusing to accept a different viewpoint of their situation, even when alternate viewpoints are intelligently and supportively stated.
• Willing to do whatever it takes to get their wishes met through a reader, including spells and hexes.

Some of the things you can to do to break the addiction cycle:

• If you’re going to call, set a budget and stick to it.
• Only call when in a calm state if mind.
• Before you call, ask yourself some questions:  Has the time period passed regarding past predictions?  Is there anything new you need to focus on for your growth?
• Read over notes from past readings, and see if this takes away the urge to call.  If it only wants to make you call more, than it may be an addictive pattern, especially if nothing has changed.
• Draw upon support from family and / or friends who have your best interests at heart.
• Consider seeing or talking to an addiction specialist. 

Ultimately, who is responsible for psychic addiction?  Is it those readers who play on the vulnerabilities of innocent people, or is the client who uses the reader as their fix?  In reality, it is both.  Just like the slave needs the slave driver, both sides feed off of each other, and keep the cycle going.

Like any God given gift, psychic ability can be used for positive or negative purposes.  For example:  having money is a blessing from God, but it can be used as a tool to facilitate arrogance, selfishness and greed.  The money in and of itself is not negative, but the application mentioned here is.

Looking for spiritual guidance, accurate predictions and healthy insight is a completely different issue than psychic addiction.  Every reading you get should be able to help facilitate growth, channel messages from those in spirit, and encourage prosperity and well-being in every area of your journey.  These people make their OWN decisions – I just advise and offer counsel, which is what any reader should do!  With the perception out there of psychics being scam artists, that last thing needed is for readers to reinforce those stereotypes.

 As a client, always maintain control of your journey and your destiny.  It is important to consider whatever is coming through, but never become addicted to hearing what your emotional desires crave to hear.  If you do ever become psychically addicted, draw upon whatever support is there for you to break the addiction – whether from a therapist, an ethical psychic or spiritual teacher, friends, or family!  Always remember, you’re meant to be in the driver’s seat of your journey – not anyone else!

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