Voice of the Spirit

“If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort, you will not get either comfort or truth, only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair.”

C.S. Lewis

I was so impressed and taken with this masterful above-mentioned quote by C.S. Lewis, that it inspired me to write this blog entry.  There are so many myths, misconceptions and false expectations that clients often have when receiving a reading, making a session far less valuable, helpful and relevant.  In this writing, I will attempt to address what I believe to be the top 5 biggest and most common myths regarding what a reading can, should, and will provide.

1 - A Reading Should Provide Comfort and Hope

I want to preface this section with saying that all of us are in a sense looking for comfort and hope in our lives when receiving a reading, but at what cost?  At the expense of hearing and receiving false, misleading and inaccurate information?  Then from there, acting upon such erroneous advice?  When it’s all said and done, the truth must come first, and perhaps, comfort and hope may be a by product.

When one goes to a doctor, wouldn’t it be frightening to think of the potential repercussions, if the basis of that medical exam was designed to fulfill two ends: the patient receiving comfort and hope, while at the same time, the doctor being expected to offer this in return and does so; at the price tag of not doing their job correctly?  Could you imagine the potentially deadly disaster if say, a doctor didn’t do what they’re supposed to do, and instead of finding out that their patient had cancer, simply told them they had a flu bug, needed a little TLC and some warm milk before bedtime?  In this scenario, comfort and hope are initially provided, but at what life altering expense to the patient?

The same types of situations frequently occur between a client and a psychic.  As a reader, I can recall countless instances where comfort and hope is what a client expects, and insists on me providing it in return.

Here is one example: “You mean to tell me that he won’t marry me.  And you’re actually claiming that he’s having sex with other women, and that my health is at risk,” a client questions in bewildered shock?  “I called you to feel uplifted, comforted, hopeful and find out when he’s going to marry me. Now you’re telling me this,” she says in complete frustration.

In this instance, we see that from the client’s point of view, she received no comfort and hope, which in reality is what she wanted.  She didn’t wish to receive accurate counsel, or truthful information based on psychic insight.  Nor did she have an open mind regarding this reading.  So here, a session becomes twisted, maligned and contorted and serves no real higher purpose, except to exasperate the client and have the information I’ve offered from spirit fall on deaf ears.

On the other hand, from my perspective, I feel she did receive truthful clairvoyant information that could be a potential lifesaver; especially if other sexual partners are involved with her lover.  To me, the thought of risking one’s health, wasting years of time waiting on a dream that’s never going to come true along with all of the other negative changes that occur internally from such an experience, is not something that should be indulged or taken lightly.  There is a real and serious set of concerns here, and the only cure for it is the truth.

If a client didn’t go into a reading wanting comfort and hope, but rather, had an open mind, they could take what comes through from the heavens and utilize this information potentially in a helpful way.  I’d like to modify an old adage to say: “Comfort and hope may never set you free, but the truth always will!”

2 - A reading should be 100% accurate

In the psychic realm, we hear bold claims of accuracy by advisors varying from:  “99.9% accurate - call me now,” to even the shockingly lofty claim of “I am 100% accurate - let me prove it to you!”  Whether a reader boasts of their skills or tries to down play their abilities, it should be clear to anyone that no psychic is 100% accurate.  Simply stated, it is not humanly possible!

This is not just a fact of the psychic world, but of all human skill sets.  Let’s pose this question: is there anything in this world that is absolute truth and infallible - not from our belief systems such as religious faith, but provably 100% right in objective terms?  Science isn’t even 100% percent correct…Data collected from research methods is not perfect…The greatest doctors make diagnostic mistakes…  So if science, research, medicine and factual analysis aren’t always correct, how could anyone expect a psychic to be?  To take it one step further, why would anyone think that a reader is on par with God almighty?

Part of the reason for these expectations is that often; clients are dealing with deeply troubling issues that are all consuming and obsessive.  With this mindset, there is a sense of so desperately wanting what they want, a solution, a quick fix that one becomes vulnerable to the potential “magic wand” a psychic can wave.  But it should never be exaggerated, or overstated.  “100% accurate” may sound quite tempting, but simply stated - it is not true. 

When a client goes into a reading thinking, expecting, even demanding 100% accuracy, they will sooner or later become quite disappointed.  Sure, for a while, the predictions may be on point, but after several consultations, the reading doesn’t live up to that perpetual demand.  The client becomes frustrated, and “throws the baby with the bath water out,” not seeing the reading for it’s true and intrinsic value.

Also, think of it this way; how could anyone even begin to truly know their accuracy rate?  Just stop and think of what it would take for a moment:

1- A psychic would have to keep track of every single prediction in all readings they had given.

2- Then, factual information would need to be acquired from each and every client as to how each prediction manifested, partially happened, or didn’t occur at all.

3 - A more tricky part of this process is the fact of just how differently people hear things, and semantically take things.  It’s like Chinese telephone: When you have several people all in the same room, whispering the same secret to each other, it is always different by the end.  When a reader says something to a client, they may or may not write it down, absorb it in their memory in any number of varying ways, possibly tell some people, and through time, the original message may be seriously altered or distorted.  As a reader, I have had this experience happen to me on numerous occasions.

By not thinking or believing a reader is ever 100% accurate, the expectations of the client become more reasonable.  With that sense of reality, one may truly be able to receive the information, predictions, insights and guidance that can help them to achieve a better life.

In reality, which is more important?  Short term predictions, which are far less relevant than long term, important outcome based predictions?  If a reader says he’ll call you by 9:00 tomorrow night, and it happens, it may be immediately presumed that everything else stated will be accurate.  But again, since no one is 100% accurate, it’s important to take note, one prediction or insight at a time. A reader can be correct about short term predictions, but wrong regarding long term outcome.  Also, conversely, a psychic can correctly see the long term outcome, while missing short term predictions, such as the date or time of a phone call, but missing the short term prediction may not change the validity of the correct long term insight offered.

3 - A reading should provide absolute “yes” or “no” answers

I remember a first time caller once asking me: “Do you believe in absolute reality?”  When I said no, she chose to end the reading.  What she was really looking for from me was absolute “yes” or “no” answers.  No shades of grey - no hues that are not discernibly black or white.  Certainly no advice or counsel - forget insights - just “yes” or “no” - period.

Here, we see another instance where somehow, people try and make readings transcend, rise above, or exist outside of the rules of the universe we exist within.  Of course our lives are never mere “yes” or “no” answers. Wouldn’t it be easy if they were? (LOL) 

A million examples of our lives having multiple grey tones can be highlighted:  From the choice of a woman to marry John or Gerald, having children or using birth control, to choosing a career path in medicine or finance.  Remember, choices define our reality, set up future episodes, consequences and dramatically affect the outcomes of our lives.  From choice, multiple possibilities can and do occur:  Here is a brief synopsis; the outcome for the woman would be completely different, in immeasurable terms twenty years before the conclusion of this scenario, if she married John as opposed to Gerald.  John would be faithful, a great provider, and a terrific father, while Gerald would be career driven, unfaithful, having multiple affairs with his secretaries at work.  Think of how radically different everything, and I mean everything would be based on that choice.  Here, a simple “yes’ or “no” response couldn’t even begin to shed light on choices so vast and life altering or do this woman and her journey justice.  Instead of “yes” or “no,” a reading could possibly shed light on the two alternate potential paths, and how they would likely unfold for her.

If our lives are not based on such a limited and narrow pathway, why do certain clients expect a reading to offer only “yes” or “no” answers, then?

The answer in part, is that clients often do not want grow.  With insights from a multi dimensional vantage point, anything can come through in a reading, which may require effort on the clients’ part; which doesn’t provide the quick fix that many seeking readings want - even insist on.  One may indeed need to change, make new choices, look at themselves and those in their lives in different ways, even diligently work on self healing in order to make things better for themselves.   Looking at the underlying issues may be essential, not optional; therefore, the “yes” or “no” response doesn’t really serve them at all.  It doesn’t offer them and their experiences any real help!

So many of us resist, resent and avoid growth - but it is exactly what our spirit needs to move forward and unlock new doors for us!  Simple “yes or “no: answers also don’t require any analysis, thought, or speculation.  It is or it isn’t… there is no muss or fuss involved.

The real answer for anyone receiving a reading is to not limit what comes through from spirit.  This channel is sacred, divine, and offers us unlimited possibilities to aid and assist us.  By being open, we can get the real answers we seek and need that are far more helpful than robotic “yes” or “no” answers!

4 - A reading is negative if it doesn’t tell you what you want to hear or already believe to be true

I want to say up front that this portion of this writing is the trickiest to explain.  Why?  Because practically every client I have ever read for has always said that they only want to hear the truth from me.  But sometimes, in reality, a client clearly does not want truth, even if they claim the contrary - they only want what they already feel, desire and believe to be true to be spoon fed right back to them, all under the guise of accurate counsel.  One might then ask, “Why would anyone pretend to be open in a reading,” when in reality they really aren’t?

There are several reasons as to why this type of situation may occur:

1 - If a client pretends that they are open to hear the truth in a reading, this allows that client to easily blame the psychic and make them wrong if the reader doesn’t simply give them what they want.  Keep in mind, by pretending that they’re indeed open-minded, the client sets it up to not have their defensiveness and emotional denial be the issue, therefore, the reader can be the one who is indeed at fault.  “It’s not that I want to hear what I want to hear,” a client proclaims.  “You’re not right and what you’re saying is absolutely not true.  This is a really negative reading,” they conclude.  Then, a potentially helpful and healing session is labeled as dark, doom and gloom and negative, not because it really may be any of those things, but because it doesn’t accommodate the clients’ emotional wish list.

2 - Often someone wants to control and manipulate the psychic process, with the desire to twist the arm of an advisor to get the answers they want.  This way, the client has their emotions, ego, desires, even fantasies validated.  In this instance, if the psychic indeed says it, then it must be true.  For some people, just hearing it, even if it is maneuvered falsely, is enough to have a momentary feel good.  I’ve even seen people engage in this type of activity with multiple readers; to keep having their emotional needs affirmed - like filling a glass with water that has a hole in the bottom.  The problem, of course, is that if the information received is not accurate, it does no good for anyone in the long run. 

3 - This problem is not exclusive to seekers of readings; it is also present with certain psychics themselves.  Again, the twist; practically every single reader nowadays claims they won’t ever tell you what you want to hear.  “Be prepared for the truth!” “Only call if you can handle the truth!” “Truth only!”

But certain unethical readers use this concept to give the illusion of a truthful session, all the while simply telling people what they want to hear, what they already believe to be true, and what their egos can accept.  This has a chilling effect on the psychic process.  Initially, the client is elated, overjoyed, feeling as if God has answered all of their prayers.  Then in time, when the false information proves to be just that, clients become bitter, disappointed, even bankrupt, depending on how long they’ve engaged in this process.

Before having a reading, really ask yourself, “Am I honestly open to hear whatever comes through?  Is my internal being receptive to the truth?”  Try to not label a reading “negative” if it isn’t what you want to hear, and by all means, let go of the preconceptions of what you want and already believe to be true so you can honestly receive what spirit may have to offer.

5 - A reading has to make sense right now

Many readers say that the best predictions are the ones that absolutely didn’t make any sense at the time.  I totally agree. Why might this be true?  Because the psychic process is the exact opposite of logic and has nothing to do with the logical process we routinely live by.  We tend to think of our lives unfolding in ways that make sense to where things are at during the current circumstances we are living in at the time. 

But psychic and spiritual information comes from divine mind; higher mind, where things just are; they are not rational or explainable by the standards we use, say to solve a mathematical equation.  Spirit offers insights, vision, and guidance from high above - to help people grow and heal their lives.

I can remember countless times in readings where I’ve told something to someone that sounded so crazy, so unbelievable, even ridiculous that they laughed, argued, or ended the reading.  Almost always, they would inevitably come back later and say I was right.  By the way, I’m not saying this to toot my own horn; but rather to highlight how the strangest predictions are the ones that usually come true.

For example: A long standing client of mine used to teach at a very high end, tremendously profitable institution that was one of the top five learning centers in its respective field worldwide.  The school was making money hand over fist at the time.  About three years ago I told him that in about two years down the road, things would dramatically change there.  I predicted that the school was going to fire its president, then the golden boy, the students were going to launch a class action lawsuit against the school, and the local news would cover it on television and in print media.  The school would begin going downhill, and teachers and employees would lose their jobs.  To both he and I, these predictions seemed unlikely - but we both said, “Hey, you never know; we’ll just wait and see.”  In time, every one of these predictions happened.  Obviously these insights didn’t make any sense back then.

Remember, this world, the physical world is all about change; things change.  We like to think that circumstances alter in our lives and around us proportionally to the way we currently understand and view our journeys.  Sometimes that is true, but often, life altering, dramatic, unexpected events do occur; sometime positively and other times in a difficult way.

Remember that a consultation may not make sense at the time, but in time, things always become clear! 

Always keep in mind that in a reading, neither the client nor the reader should try and be in control - there is nothing to control - diving information is a miraculous gift from the heavens - it is coming through for you and your highest good, so let it be resoundingly heard!  We should open our minds, hearts, and spirits to all that God is willing to give us - and accept whatever is offered with grace, dignity and complete appreciation!